Abortion Won’t Die…

…unless artificial contraception dies with it.

(As you may know, I’m being convicted of this fact as I run around with my camera, filming a people whose goal it is to rid the world of the various nuisances that get between husbands and wives in their attempts to make love. This includes condoms, chemicals, cement walls, the 24 hour news cycle, etc. etc.)

It’s simple really. Telling someone to use contraception but not to have an abortion is like telling them “Do whatever you can not to have a child, but don’t kill a child.” Now, I’m not saying that’s entirely impossible logic to follow, but can’t you see how having the original goal of artificially preventing a child from existing leads – especially in our morally bankrupt age – to the consideration of the immoral destruction of a child to achieve that goal?

Why, you ask? Well let me, in my infinite teenage wisdom, tell you. Because the child of an artificially contracepting couple is a failure. The child is the accident. The child is not the result of entirely self-giving love, he is the result of a mistake in the use of contraception.

That’s not to say he remains that way in the eyes of his parents, but it is to say that he is greeted with animosity from the get-go. There is immediate temptation towards abortion. And as we know, wherever there is temptation, there is sin. Where there is contraception there is failed contraception, and where there is failed contraception, there is abortion. We know, without a shadow of doubt, that increased use of contraception in society leads to an increased abortion rate. The data is in. Abortion is rooted in contraception, and the weed won’t die unless pulled from the root.

So we – as Catholics – cannot expect to win the fight we are so proud of fighting – an end to the violent injustice of abortion – without fighting the fight we are embarrassed of. It’s easy enough to tell people that we are against the murder of innocents; it gets tough when we tell people not to ruin their marriages with pills and rubber. But we never were called to float along the world’s currents, so please, if you want an end to abortion, oppose the use of artificial contraception.

  • Anonymous

    This is a fabulous way to look at it. Absolutely wonderful. I never thought of it that way until now. But it's funny how many people complain that they want to be treated as a human being and demand dignity (which is certainly ok, considering, um, we are human beings and as God's creations we have dignity) yet overlook the simple choices that massively point to human dignity and our value as God's people. It's hidden, but it's obvious at the same time. Great blog, by the way. Love it.Molly

  • Anonymous

    i find it funny that people can claim that microscopic "life" on mars is more living than a "fetus" is. discussjordan

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03789264094727474306 Laura

    This is why I have faith in our young adults to help turn around the blight of contraception!! It has destroyed too many marriages, and too many lives, including babies!! Hurrah to our young Catholics – carry on!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16806869494696971327 Marion Miner

    Agreed. Griswold v. Connecticut (1965) effectively legalized artificial contraception nationwide; Roe v. Wade is a direct descendant.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/15864953064301451142 Arual

    Perhaps this is why even though abortion was an option on the table for me when my husband and I conceived (neither of us is religious, nor at the time were we opposed to abortion), we did not choose it. We had consciously chosen NOT to use contraception, and so although our pregnancy was not PLANNED, it was not unexpected, nor unwanted. We knew that sex, while fun, ultimately leads to procreation.I have since come to oppose artificial contraception because it is so damaging to our bodies and environment, particularly the hormonal variety. The emotional and psychological damages were ones I had not considered until I began reading Catholic blogs this week.It's a nice happy belief that you can separate sex from pregnancy with no consequences, but everything I know now tells me that there ARE consequences, damaging to all parties involved. I enjoyed your post. :)

  • Anonymous

    Do not be too eager to deal out death and judgement. Even the very wise cannot see all ends. -GandalfI think that quote is very fitting for the pro-life cause. Plus, it's LOTR :D

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11755036217110188887 Daniel Beiter

    It's so much deeper, though. Parenting is one of the greatest purely earthly goods (if not the greatest), cooperating in creation.Making this good into an evil is not horrible, which is why Satan is so after it. Plus, it destroys the value of a family, devaluing motherhood, which removes that thing which is a woman's crown, her glory. It's probably the second most common theme in the Old Testament, after God.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11755036217110188887 Daniel Beiter

    Also, an interesting thought that Gilby (that's what we're calling him now) brought up. Those who promote contraceptives and culture in general would lead us to believe that you can get pregnant walking around a corner too quickly. It seems generally accepted that pregnancy happens like crazy – so much that it must be forcibly stopped.A great source of pain for those who get this message and yet love babies is that conception is oft not easy. In fact, sterility is more common than one would think, and miscarriages are pretty common. It makes abortion and contraception all the worse that this gift is hated when it is not only precious, but also is not so easy to come by.

    • lakingscrzy

      I’ve never thought about that demographic before, interesting.

  • Anonymous

    And if a couple uses Natural Family Planning, the method promoted by the Catholic church, and accidentally conceives a child, how is that child less of a "failure" than the child conceived when a condom breaks? Arual seems to argue that an unplanned child can still be loved, so what is the difference between an error in timing and a torn condom? In both cases the couple attempts to have sex without conceiving a child, but accidentally does so. What prevents them from loving the child in both instances? Why is their child a "failure" in one case and not the other?

    • Anonymous

      No, there is little difference between a condom breaking, a pill failing, and miscalculating an infertile period.

      And there is little difference between NFP and other methods of contraception in this regard.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12679230722483582032 Marc

    Well, did you know it is considered sinful for a Catholic to use NFP to avoid children without just reason? ("Just reason" could include things like: not having enough money to raise the child, health risk. etc.) So a child born is not a "failure" because – in the proper use of NFP – there is no "avoidance of a child" merely an effort to have children at an appropriate time. A baby might come early then, and it might be difficult, but there is no opposition to the idea of having a child from the get-go, and thus little, if any, temptation to abortion. Whereas the use of artificial contraception cuts off even the possibility of life, and is used in the mindset of preventing children. See the difference? But I hope you don't think that I'm claiming a contracepting couple couldn't love a 'surprise' baby. Only that the temptation towards abortion is stronger.

  • Anonymous

    This is indeed a great way of looking at the issue. Although I can't help thinking what would happen to our Earth if nobody used any contraception and the population of the Earth would soar to rocket highs.Then even the rich countries wouldn't be able to give to the poor as they wouldn't have enough to eat either…But I do like the moral of the idea…

    • lakingscrzy

      That is a highly exaggerated result of people stopping contraceptives. I really don’t understand how little people have control of their bodies. It’s like a bunch of dopamine addicts. If we could teach people to control their bodies, to take hold of themselves like respectable men and women, and not a society so twisted from constantly inputting sex and hedonism that maybe, just maybe, we could attain a state of higher being and substance; we could bring heaven a little bit closer to earth.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/11755036217110188887 Daniel Beiter

    But see, that's why Natural Family Planning is so important. Using *artificial* contraception is sinful, but society can't work without some sort of prudence in making families. It is a reminder of the responsibility every human couple holds because of the fact that they can reproduce. Overpopulation would, of course, happen with no control. So long as people don't try to have all of the control.

    • lakingscrzy

      Are you unaware of the number of people this planet could sustain?

  • Anonymous

    What is so different between the types of contraception??? You never actually show how having a child while practicing NFP isn't a failure! This is perhaps on of the weakest arguments I have seen on this blog. I am a devout Catholic but I am also cynical of bad arguments. It is faulty reasoning and unrealistic expectations that drive people from the Church.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12679230722483582032 Marc

    I thought I explained it in the above comment, but let me try again.The practice of NFP, according to the Church, is not used for the blanket avoidance of children, but for the spacing children, to have them at a time both appropriate and healthy for the couple. It does this by working with a woman's natural cycles.The practice of artificial contraception works to unnatural cut off a woman's natural cycle or put a physical barrier between husband and wife. This is bad on its own, but the essential problem is this: while with NFP we cooperate with God's creation, with our bodies, and with his plan for our sexuality, with artificial contraception we pump women full of chemicals in an attempt to make our own sexuality. One that includes never being fertile (the pill) or never really becoming one flesh (the condom). The idea of a child is included in our natural family planning, because it always leaves the woman fertile, it never "comes between" husband and wife, and thus a child is not a mistake. A child is always included in the plan, whether it comes early or not.When you redefine sexuality to avoid children, to become infertile, a child is a mistake. Not that contracepting couple can't heroically avoid this mentality, but the data is in. Contracepting couples are much more likely to get an abortion. As far as unrealistic expectations go, I completely understand. But have you heard of Creighton? http://www.fertilitycare.org/Hope this helps. and thanks for reading. Feel free to email me if you want to discuss this further.

  • Anonymous

    Anonymous, you describe yourself as a devout Catholic. Have you read Humanae Vitae?http://www.papalencyclicals.net/Paul06/p6humana.htmAny time a couple using NFP enters into the sexual act, they are to be "open to the possibility of life". This makes pregnancy not a failure, but a natural, intended, and joyful outcome of the unitive and procreative sexual act in marriage.Manda

  • Jonathan

    Amen, Marc. Well said.

  • Mandy P

    When a couple uses NFP they use it know that pregnancy is always a possibility when they are having sex. They are open to life rather than attempting to prevent it totally. They are realistic. They understand that pregnancy is a direct result of sex. It is the mindset that is different. They still might be a little surprised and worried when they have an unplanned pregnancy but there is not accusation there. NFP is a partner form of family planning; both need to be on board for it to be used effectively. It has been a blessing to my marriage and I wish the Church did a better job teaching the ins and outs of it.

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  • http://ideasaboutgodandtheworld.wordpress.com/ Alejandro

    There is a problem in your logic and it’s the following: NFP is to avoid having children too, right? But if it fails, according to your logic, it’s the same as having a child accidentally with contraception, and therefore it’s also not the result of entirely self-giving love, but also an accident, a mistake.


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