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A Retraction, Re: Marriage. Too Bad, This Bit Had a Good Line in It.

So in an earlier post I wrote this: It's important that marriage--its norms and expectations, more than its explicit legal benefits--is one powerful cultural response to the fruitful/destructive volcanic force of eros, and especially heterosexual eros. It's important that out of the many cultural institutions that try to channel the lava, marriage is typically one of the gentlest. (That's often true even when a marriage culture is oppressive and misogynist--in those cases the alternatives are … [Read more...]

Marriage Unconstrained: In Which I Argue with Myself

So I don't know if you noticed, but that Pixar/gay marriage post was really two posts awkwardly yoked together by a cartoon about singing volcanoes. And some of the latter half of the post, especially, made Christian marriage sound like a social-improvement project: Live in mutual self-gift, mirroring the love of Christ and His Bride the Church, because it will lead to a stable bourgeois society. I have these studies showing that surrender of self-will is good for child educational … [Read more...]

A Few Gay Marriage Links I Like (And One Straight Link About Gay Marriage)

You can hear echoes of these posts in my Lava thing--several of us working similar veins. EDITED! MORE LINKS BELOW!Melinda Selmys, "Five Ways We Can Save Marriage Now":Yesterday I said that we need to move forward with building up the infrastructure to make traditional marriage into a realistic and attractive possibility. Today, I’m going to talk about some very practical things that we can start doing to help make this a reality. In First Things’ Symposium on the SCOTUS decision, Mat … [Read more...]

Philadelphia Brought You a Startlingly Good Articulation of Catholic Teaching on Marriage, Vocation, And Family, And Now…

they're offering a web seminar on the same topics. Chris Roberts, author of the excellent Creation & Covenant: The Significance of Sexual Difference in the Moral Theology of Marriage and one of the authors of the Philadelphia Archdiocese's surprisingly terrific Love Is Our Mission: The Family Fully Alive (which I reviewed here), is giving a seminar TODAY, this evening at 7 - 8 Eastern! Sorry for the late notice but you can register here and I suspect you will not regret it.EDITED to … [Read more...]

“No Marriage Is an Island”: I’m at AmCon

riffing on the relevance of a book about gay celibacy for people who are neither gay nor celibate: ...Hill explores how our cultural expectations affect people who, for whatever reason, don’t expect to marry or have kids. How do we give and receive love? How do we lead lives which are fruitful and not just lonely expanses of time-before-death? So often gay people in the “traditional” (for lack of a better word) churches receive no hint that we, too, have vocations—that we, too, are called to lov … [Read more...]

Marriage as Work vs Marriage as the Cross

From the department of Those Who Can't Do and/or Fools Rush In, so as always, this post is worth at most what you paid for it:Conservatives often argue that Americans have a Disneyfied, "soulmate" view of marriage, which makes us unprepared for the fact that marriage--like all vocations--can be terribly hard. I don't think that's quite right. We do have a cultural vocabulary for talking about the "hard parts" of marriage. The problem is that we have only one vocabulary, only one metaphor; … [Read more...]

“An Open Conversation on Mixed-Orientation Marriage”

over at Theology in the Raw. Up-front about the suffering they've experienced; also challenging to the churches: We’ve received a lot of well-meaning advice that has turned out to be very harmful, but possibly the worst is to avoid other LGBT people. The assumption and fear is that if Brian befriends another gay man, of course he’ll cheat. While there is wisdom in maintaining some physical, emotional, and relational boundaries, isolating oneself completely is extremely harmful. Brian’s frien … [Read more...]


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