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Hey team, I could use a bit of help today on a writing project. I’m specifically looking for helpful advice and spiritual encouragement for folks who may be chronically unemployed or underemployed.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments about advice you’ve given or received, and also about what NOT to say to someone who may be in this situation.
Thanks — in advance — for your help!
Lisa M. Hendey is the founder and editor of CatholicMom.com and the bestselling author of The Handbook for Catholic Moms and A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms.
The economy is stil bad, despite what our Democratic president wants to portray. Therefore, it is difficult to avoid layoffs. My husband has only been unemployed for 57 days, but it is emotionally burdensome for the sole-bread-winner of our family. Do not ask: “Have you applied with ___(company)__?” as if he is too stupid to know the obvious. Instead ask: “Who have you applied with?” and listen with caring in your eyes and responses. Please do not tell me which novena I should be praying to help my husband, as if the one(s) I’m already trying are not good enough and yours would be “better.” Instead, you could offer that you are praying that favorite novena on our behalf.
Offer to take my husband to lunch or some outing that gives him support through adult conversation. Please don’t avoid calling him to see what update he has this week. It lets us know that you care, when we are tempted to feel abandoned by God.
I know that the Heavenly Father has a plan, but when I read the Book of Job, I realize that I may have my patience stretched even if I am living a righteously. We understand that while God can work miracles, we also must face the truth that there are still natural consequences and free will involved. Meaning past and future employers might not be listening to the Holy Spirit as keenly as we are. (Not to get too deep, but I think this is also the frustration for single Catholics who are looking for a spouse in this crazy culture. Certainly God has saved someone for them, but it might take longer to find them because of the natural consequences of sin which has stained so many lives.)
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Lisa M. Hendey is the founder and editor of CatholicMom.com and the bestselling author of The Handbook for Catholic Moms and A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms. Read more about Lisa...
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