Don’t Drink and Drive You Fool!

According to MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Driving, someone is killed by a drunk driver every 40 seconds! Every 40 frikin seconds!

I have had 2 people very, very close to me get killed my drunk drivers. And today is the 14th anniversary of my mentor, Jeff Still, getting killed by a drunk nurse who hit him head on because she crossed over the median, when I was 15 years old. He was not killed instantly and suffered a very painful death, robbing this world of one of the truly special people to ever live; and this nurse had just a couple of scratches. He is survived by his wife and two little boys, who have now grown up not knowing their dad because some lady decided to make a stupid, selfish choice.

The most haunting part for me today is that Jeff was 28 when he was killed. I’m 29, and have already outlived the man I looked up to most, outside of my family, during the most formative years of my life.

Please, please, don’t ever drink and drive. I don’t care if you’ve had one or two drinks and think you’re ok. Just call a cab or have someone pick you up. It’s not a macho thing, and I could care less how high you think your tolerance is or how cool it is that you can drink anyone under the table. Just don’t get behind the wheel of a car. It’s not cool. It’s not funny. Take a look at Jeff’s picture and let it live with you knowing that every time you get behind a wheel when you drink, you could be killing a spouse, a parent, a sibling and a mentor – like this lady did for the people in my life.

Much love.

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About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation (www.themarinfoundation.org). He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • WackyWilliams

    thank you so much man for bringing awarness to this. I know it scares me that my bro drinks & drives, he says it makes him a better driver & I have to admit it is more cautios when he’s half in the bag but you never know. I drank for over 30 years HEAVLY & the only good thing I can say is I never drove.

  • Mrs T

    At the risk of posting too often, I want to emphasize how dangerous it is to drink & drive. As a parent, I tried to ‘choose my battles’ & one of them was not to say ‘don’t drink’ as the Bible doesn’t espressly forbid it. It just says not to overdo it. But one thing I emphasized was not to drive after drinking. Stay at a friend’s house or whatever, but don’t drive!!!!
    So far, I think they have done that.
    Some of you, like me, don’t drink booze, but we may be sensitive to caffeine & sugar. That can affect our reacion time & behavior(remember the Twinkie defense!). We have to get to know our bodies & how they work. But puleeeeze you all, be careful out there. We must all know a personal situation & never want it ti happen again!

  • http://www.loveisanorientation.com Andrew Marin

    Oh Mrs. T! You don’t post too often…I absolutely LOVE hearing your thoughts and experiences! Keep them coming… :)

  • http://stanspoint.blogspot.com Stan

    Thank you for posting an important message such as this. I never got to meet my brother, Edward, as he was killed by a drunk driver when he was 24. What a loss. MADD are doing an excellent job of getting the message out, DON’T DRINK & DRIVE.

  • http://www.neveralackofideas.com Nick S.

    Wow, I didn’t realize Mr. Still was only 28 when he was taken from us. I remember his funeral like it was yesterday. I feel for his family every day. The worst part is that his death was completely avoidable. Thanks for the reminder, Andy.

  • http://www.loveisanorientation.com Andrew Marin

    Stan – Sorry to hear about your brother. It always amazes me how many lives are affected by drunk driving, and yet so many people still think it’s a great idea to do. Unbelievable. Much love.

  • Rebecca

    So, I stumbled across your blog thanks to some friends on Facebook, and I’ve been sifting through posts for the last hour or two. This is the first one I’ve felt the need to comment on.
    This Saturday will mark 19 months since one of my best friends was killed by a drunk driver, in November of 08. She was only 17, and had been trying to help a friend with some personal stuff when her car was hit.
    Her mother said later that the way the car looked, you’d have thought the driver (friend) would have survived and the passenger (the boy she was helping) would have died, but no. God had a different plan.
    It was hard, finding out at school the next morning. Our youth group found out first, mostly because my mom and a couple of the youth leaders intercepted our students. Most of us hung out at school but skipped classes, preferring to talk and cry and remember.
    The young woman who struck my friend had been sober for a while, if my understanding is correct, but that night decided that a drink sounded really good–thanks to a little voice in the back of her head.
    At first I hated the situation. My best friend was dead, and it was HER FAULT.
    But then my friend’s mother saw something in the driver and befriended her—FORGAVE her. And so did the rest of us, as far as I know.
    A month or so later, I had to give a speech in my speech class, and I chose to do it on drunk driving–mostly because of my experience with losing a friend to it.
    I had already decided that I was never going to drink, much less drink and drive, and losing my best friend in a drunk driving accident only solidified that decision.

    • http://www.loveisanorientation.com Andrew Marin

      Thank you so much Rebecca for sharing. I also found out while in school. I got pulled out of class and brought to the guidance counselors and told there. It was horrefying, and a moment I’ll never forget. Your situation is quite unique, none of us knew the person who killed Jeff (or Ally for that matter.) Your strength in your (and your friend’s character) amazes me. Much love.


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