Brenda’s Powerful Talk

Oh how I wish you all could have been in Miami on Friday when Brenda brought the house down. For those of you who aren’t on Twitter (I am @LovesMeSomeYou), here are some of the comments I tweeted from her talk about living distinctly within the realms of feminism, the church and culture:

“This (homosexuality/bridge building) might be Andrew’s calling, but it has become our ministry.”

“Women should never be a ‘yes’ person. We’re not just a help-mate, we’re more. We’re equal partners & have to start reclaiming that outlook.”

“All the women in the Bible used their knowledge, power and influence (whether big or small) to get their Kingdom jobs finished. That’s a model for me.”

“Feminist isn’t a bad word. But it’s become one in the Church so men could stay in power. I’m a feminist with traditional values and that scares people.”

“I’m in the first female generation that the feminist movement fought for, and we’re still empty and searching to find ourselves…”

“Thank you Lord for blessing woman with such uniqueness. Who cares if the church or culture gets it or not.”

“Christians call me an Alpha-Female. I prefer to say I’m a ‘hard-lined compassionate’. The incredible part about knowing yourself in Christ is that it makes you strong!”

“I told myself I wasn’t going to be defined by what was traditionally expected of me….”

“I was going to do and be whatever I wanted to be and accomplish all of my goals no matter the cultural or Church disgust. And I STILL love the Lord! Many feel that combination of things is impossible.”

“There’s a vision for the future to combine femininity and traditional beliefs. Until we woman believe that it’s never going to happen.”

Much love.

About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation ( He is the award winning author of two books and a DVD curriculum, and his new book Us Versus Us: The Untold Story of Religion & the LGBT Community, will release June 2016. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and Christian involvement in reconciliation. He is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland where he is researching and teaching at the University of St. Andrews, earning his PhD in Divinity. His research focuses on the theology and praxis of social reconciliation between victims and their perpetrators. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Brandon

    “Feminist isn’t a bad word. But it’s become one in the Church so men could stay in power. I’m a feminist with traditional values and that scares people.”

    That’s awesome. Andrew, I think both you and your wife having this kind of attitude is really cool. People turn their heads when they see Christians involved in “non-Christian” things, like feminism or the gay community. People think we’re contradictory. I think Jesus did this too, a lot. It’s not about making a scene. It’s not about attention. It’s about following him, no matter what it looks like.

  • anonymous girl living in the Bible Belt

    Oh my goodness … as a woman hurt and burned by the conventional Christian stereotype of what women should be, I find this SO healing and challenging. Definitely doing some soul searching over this. Thank you Brenda!

  • Mrs T

    Brenda may be one of the few that has a husband who will allow her to develop herself in this way. Keep walking with the Lord!!

  • Rachel

    I’d really love to know what Brenda’s referring to by ‘traditional beliefs’. Any place we can get the whole transcript?

    • Andrew Marin

      Rachel, there was no transcript/video. However I can have Brenda visit the blog and explain some of her thoughts if you would like?

      • Rachel

        That would be great! Brenda, would you mind – I know you have your own blog too!

        • Jon Trouten

          FYI: Brenda answered her question over at her blog:

        • Andrew Marin

          Rachel – I just posted Brenda’s response on my blog here:

  • Twila Gibbnes

    I learned in Old Testament Class in Seminary (SMU) that the word translated as “helpmate” is the same word used in Psalm 121 “I lift up mine eyes to the hills. From whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord” So the kind of help that the woman is to man, is not as sidekick, but as one who is part of his salvation. This was so affirming, and helped me reclaim the Garden story, rather than dismiss it for leaving woman as secondary.
    Our professor, John Holbert, also encouraged us to see woman as an “other”, not just gender, but anyone different (race, culture, same sex) The “other” one who is unlike us is there to help us be more than we can be by ourselves.