October Newsletter

In case you missed it (and if you did, you can sign up here), our October newsletter is here, and comes complete with this photo of your friendly staff over here at The Marin Foundation: If you’re in the area and free tonight, don’t forget to join us for our Living in the Tension gathering (details here). [Read More…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – November 3

For our upcoming Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, November 3rd, we will be discussing gender expression and roles. We will be meeting back in Room 124 on 5255 N Ashland Ave. at 7pm. If you’re available beforehand, we will be getting together at Lady Gregory’s on 5260 N Clark St. at 5:15pm to grab a bite to eat [Read More…]

Love is an Orientation: Tension

In 1963 Martin Luther King, Jr. was locked up in a jail in Birmingham, Alabama.  In a letter addressed to his fellow clergymen, King reflected on his life’s work to that point and said “I must confess that I am not afraid of the word tension.  I have earnestly opposed violent tension, but there is a [Read More…]

On Sharing Stories

I grew up in a family whose most central value was “What happens in this house, stays in this house.”
My parents, young Christians, had broken away from their own families as teenagers, and were celebrating parenthood before either of them had lived two full decades. As the years went on, the home would grow to be full of the three headstrong girls they were raising (thankfully, none of us high schoolers at quite the same time), and headstrong independence in children brings with it situations that leave young parents grasping for control of the narrative… my parents found their stability in adherence to their decree that the home was as good as Vegas and the stories therein would not be told. [Read more…]

Living in the Tension – October 20

For our upcoming Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, October 20th, we will be welcoming Aidan Tharp for a Trans 101 session. Aidan will be sharing about general terminology, information about the transgender community, and good things to keep in mind. We are changing up our meeting space for this week only and we [Read More…]

Why We Go Purple

October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and tomorrow (October 16th) is Spirit Day, when we go purple, joining millions of others as we stand against bullying, and show support for LGBTQ youth. [Read more…]

Why My Wife Came Out

Last year at about this time, I wrote about when my wife came out to me as bisexual. It was an exposé of my own baggage (of which there was a lot) as well as a tribute to her patience and generosity (of which there was more).

Amid the flood of response, I received many different iterations of the same question: “Why? Why did your wife feel the need to come out at all?” [Read more…]

So, Tomorrow Is October 11th…

…and October 11th is National Coming Out Day.  We’ve pulled together some links in honor of the day: Resources:   http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/05/lgbt-documentaries/ http://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/national-coming-out-day http://www.glaad.org/tags/national-coming-out-day http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/03/moving-and-coming-out/   Stories: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/10/on-coming-out-as-a-gay-christian/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/10/coming-out-to-myself/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2011/02/interviews-when-being-out-is-not-easy/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/11/an-area-evangelicals-might-learn-from-the-lgbt-community/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/12/make-the-yuletide-gay-or-dont-whatever/   For Youth Pastors and Teachers: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2009/10/youth-are-coming-out/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2014/04/what-i-wish-my-youth-pastor-had-said-part-one/ http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2014/04/what-i-wish-my-youth-pastor-had-said-part-2/   For Parents: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2014/01/the-five-stages-of-grief-for-parents-of-lgbt-children/   For Allies:  http://www.patheos.com/blogs/loveisanorientation/2013/10/from-a-straight-guy-on-coming-out/   If you’re local and want a [Read More…]

Living in the Tension – October 6

For tonight’s Living in the Tension gathering, we will be welcoming Eva Sullivan-Knoff to share a part of her story about her child coming out to her as transgender and their journey together. Eva served as a pastor in the Evangelical Covenant Church for twenty years before entering her current work as a Spiritual Director and [Read More…]

Getting Over the Church

If you’ve been alive long enough and if you’ve ever loved someone, you’ve probably also experienced the heartache of breaking up. Almost all of us can relate to the difficulty of getting over someone. But what do you do if it is the Church that has broken your heart? How do you get over that? [Read more…]


Labels are tricky. On the one hand, they can be incredibly useful as tool for self-definition and community-affiliation. This was my wife’s attitude toward the word “bisexual.” Finally, she had a label that helped make sense of her experience and connect her to a community of like individuals.
On the other hand, labels can be oppressive. My wife and I tend to feel this way about the term “mixed-orientation couple” or “mixed-orientation marriage.” Technically, my wife and I fit that description; she’s bi and I’m straight. But the term seems to imply a conflict of sexual orientations that is absent in our relationship. So it’s not a particularly useful label for us. [Read more…]

Taking Small Steps

Until the body of Christ believes that peaceful productivity with gays and lesbians is actually an option, how can we ever expect it to happen?  This is the first main step to how Christians begin to elevate the conversation past a street fight.  It’s a lot like the first step God commanded Joshua to take [Read More…]

Bi the Way :: Some Helpful Tips for Christians on Bisexuality

Today’s post comes from our friend Eliel Cruz. Eliel is a bisexual Christian covering bisexuality for The Advocate and is the co-founder of The Intercollegiate Adventist GSA Coalition. As yesterday was Bisexual Visibility Day, The Marin Foundation wanted to take the opportunity to platform Eliel’s post to increase awareness and, hopefully, educate our readers. We hope you find it [Read More…]

On Listening

Today’s post is by Melinda Guerra, the Administrative Assistant here at The Marin Foundation.  “We have been too wrapped up in planning the communication of our truth by cooking up contingency plans for potential rebuttals that we have forgotten to think relationally.  Looking for opportunities to build trust will inevitably remove some of the fears [Read More…]