Worthwhile Reads: Positive Parenting

I’ve been doing a bit of work on my parenting section, and in the process I found a couple of links to share.

Positive Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting clearly lays out the differences between authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting, and positive parenting.

This same website offers a three-part introduction to positive parenting for newbies: Part one, Part two, and Part three.

Finally, I found a post on the differences between “consequences” and “problem-solving” especially fascinating.


In Which Bobby Tries to Communicate
Not All Days Are Easy Days
On Coming When You're Called and Fear-Based Obedience
When We Expect More of Our Children than of Ourselves
About Libby Anne

Libby Anne grew up in a large evangelical homeschool family highly involved in the Christian Right. College turned her world upside down, and she is today an atheist, a feminist, and a progressive. She blogs about leaving religion, her experience with the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements, the detrimental effects of the "purity culture," the contradictions of conservative politics, and the importance of feminism.

  • http://www.arizona-writer.com Kimberly Hosey (Arizona Writer)

    Worthwhile reads indeed! Thanks for posting these, and for working on your parenting section in general. Yea!

    I didn’t even know these distinctions when I became a parent, but I’m happy to see I generally fall in the “positive” camp (though I have to admit I skew to “permissive” when I’m feeling particularly guilty, busy, or lazy).

  • Andrew

    Lovely links.

    When my second son was going through his tantrum stage, my wife and I hit upon a beautifully calming approach which was to tell him that since he was upset, he could have a cuddle and we’d wait together while he finished his cry, and that when he’d finished, we’d talk about what was making him upset. Gave him the message that he wasn’t being rejected for the fact of being upset, and that we recognised that he was sad, but at the same time let him understand that he wouldn’t get what he wanted by crying but by talking, and that we wouldn’t engage with the actual issue at hand until he was ready to talk. Usually the tantie stopped in a surprisingly short time. :-)

    And he seemed, and seems, to be a very happy boy.