The Horrible Hypocrisy of the Burkini Ban

Remember that French burkini ban I wrote about last week? It's really happening. And now we have this fascinating (and horrifying) photo comparison:The top picture, which dates from the early twentieth century, depicts a male official measuring women's swimsuits to make sure they cover enough skin. The bottom picture, from Nice, France, this week, depicts a group of male police officers forcing a woman on a beach to strip, because she's covering too much skin.Because yes, French … [Read more...]


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“Burkini” Bans Shut Women out of Public Space

"Mr. Anderson, Mr. Anderson!" I called, trying to get his attention. Mr. Anderson was the church youth group leader. I was in middle school, and I was considering joining. I was from a large, conservative homeschool family, and at our hip, upbeat evangelical megachurch, that meant I didn't fit in with the other children. I had attended Sunday School only sporadically, and youth group would be a different experience---it would bring me face-to-face with my church's public school children and … [Read more...]


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No, Modesty Does Not “Empower” Women

I recently came upon an article via Ladies Against Feminism titled 4 Reasons Modesty Empowers Women (And Porn Does Not). Let's start with the title. The title contrasts "modesty" and "porn," seemingly unaware that the two are not the only options, or that there is a huge difference between porn on the one hand, and an ordinary person wearing "revealing" clothing she just happens to like on the other.Now let's move on to the post itself:Modern women everywhere are taught that it’s pe … [Read more...]


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Be Pretty, but Not Too Pretty

I was struck by this particular line in Kate Schell's list of modesty rules:Be pretty, but not too pretty.After blogging abut Kate's list, I blogged about a No Greater Joy article in which the author equated dressing modestly with being beautiful. My daughters won’t dress like a strange woman either. Mine, at only 9 years old, knows that she should keep her body from a man’s eyes, reserving it for her future husband. In the grocery store one day, when my daughter was wearing a skirt tha … [Read more...]


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Nine-Year-Old Sluts and Masturbating Dinner Guests

While searching for an image to use to illustrate the concept "modesty," I came upon this image:I noticed that the image was from www.nogreaterjoy.org, so I clicked through. The article was titled "Sobering Issues---Modesty." It began with a letter from a woman who had read Created To Be His Help Meet and disagreed with Debi's treatment of Lydia in the story titled "Bad Bob." If you remember, Lydia, the youth pastor's wife, wore a tight skirt which, well, as the story tells it, basically … [Read more...]


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The Modesty Rules—Not So Simple, Really

I often heard, growing up, that dressing modestly wasn't about rules, it was about the heart attitude. In other words, if you were focused on the right thing---on God---you would naturally dress modestly, without having to run through a list of rules. You wouldn't even think about wearing short shorts, or showing your midriff, or wearing clothing that accentuates your bust.Of course, all of this ignores the fact that dressing in unapproved ways does not actually require intent to lead young … [Read more...]


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It Starts at Five

Sally is five years old and will be heading off to kindergarten in the fall. She climbs trees and looks for worms in the dirt and gets bruises on her shins. She's an active and perfectly normal little girl. On a recent visit to my parents' house, Sally showed off a new dress to my mother. This dress, which has a slit up to the knee on one side, has become one of Sally's favorites. Why? Because she says it makes her look like Elsa from the movie Frozen, of course!"Grandma, look at my dress!" … [Read more...]


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