Thank you so very much for your blog!! I just discovered it yesterday as I was googling for a Mormon therapist. I’ve never been to therapy or used counseling before, but my boyfriend and I are planning to marry soon. We are both in our late 20s. He is a convert who was sexually active before finding the church, I am a lifelong member and virgin. One of the things I love about him so much is that he embraced... Read more

Would you put erotic dancers and strippers in the pornography category? I would, but my spouse argued that it is just printed materials and videos. This seems absurd to me- I think seeing something live instead of on a video is the same thing or worse! Yes I would. There are dancers/dances/costumes that we may find inappropriate but I would not deem pornography (i.e. professional cheerleading teams such as the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders, Las Vegas showgirls, etc.). But if you... Read more

You said, “There can often be a problem the teen has come across that they don’t know how to solve and hasn’t confided to another.” As an adult going through something that I don’t know how to solve in my marriage and am unable to share with those closest to me, I have had thoughts of suicide. Some days it seems it would solve all my problems, either that or divorce. I ask myself, what is worse? I am seeing... Read more

Recently a 16-year-old young man from our ward hung himself. It was a horrendous shock for everyone, as this was a handsome, well-liked boy. The young man’s family began immediately to say that it was an accidental death, but it was ruled a suicide by the coroner. Why does someone do something like this? Does the method of suicide give any clues? This apparently happened in a closet, and it was not a long closet. He REALLY wanted to end... Read more

As a former elementary school principal, I am quite aware that attention difficulties are just the tip of the iceberg. ADHD children can’t filter out distractions, finish tasks on-time, use their memory optimally, etc. A pill doesn’t teach these skills. My wife and I opted to use cognitive training for our son, Alex. We used Play Attention (www.playattention.com) and ADHD Nanny (www.adhdnanny.com). We’ve been very successful with these approaches. We also changed our parenting skills with great success. It’s just... Read more

I completely agree! Tell your wife! I was one of those women who swore if my husband ever cheated I’d be gone with the kids before he knew what hit him (what hit him would have been my fist). And Beloved never felt he could tell me about the girl he dated in High School who he has never stopped thinking about. Until now. When he is back with her 18 years later, when we have 4 children and a... Read more

Great article! Get ready to laugh… When Virgins Collide Read more

I received a lot of comments on the following post: She says this is my problem, not hers…. And I’d like to address them all at once if possible. That “affair with yourself” suggestion scares the living daylights out of me. It sounds so wrong, somehow. It seems like anyone who gave themselves permission to be selfish for 6 months to a year would be giving in to the natural man and would enjoy it and choose that path. Eternal... Read more

Thank you for your suggestions– it is so helpful to have a place like this where one can voice concerns and get reasonable, grounded feedback. In my opinion, our communication is severely lacking. It is easiest for me to communicate via writing, so that is what I usually do. But then I expect some kind of response, and most often there is none. I would love to increase our dialogue, but for years now I have been ineffective at doing... Read more