“So far …”

by VyckieRecently, my friend Heather, who is the pastor at the Salvation Army where I attend church, came over to help with yard work.  As we were pulling up weeds ~ some of which had grown as tall as me ~ my new neighbors, a young couple with a baby boy, came outside to work on their landscaping.Heather also has young children, and since she's super friendly, she used the connection as a conversation starter ... "How old is your baby?""Eight months," the new mom responded.Trying to keep the conversation going, Heather added, "I have two kids."... which sounded to my ears like an incomplete sentence. In my Quiverful Days (Q.D.), whenever we moms of many stated how many children we … [Read more...]

Out of the Matrix ~ Part 2: Biblewives

Warning: This story series contains descriptions of physical abuse.by CherylAnnHannahWe broke ground for the house my husband wanted to build on the day my sixth child was born.  I had to drive over to the building site where a bulldozer was gouging deep furrows in the grassy meadow where our house would eventually stand in order to get my husband to drive me to the hospital.  Hannah was nearly a c-section baby, but just before the obstetrician came to prep me for the procedure, her cord, which had been laying across the cervix, and which was in danger of prolapse, moved out of the way and several hours later I pushed her out into the world.She was only six weeks old when I loaded her … [Read more...]

Demand For An Apology

Seneca Falls 2 Convention Issues a Demand for an Apology from Complementarians for the Harm Fostered by their Sub-Christian DoctrineOn July 24, 2010 at the conclusion of the Seneca Falls 2 Evangelical Christian Women’s Convention, the newly established Freedom for Christian Women Coalition issued a list of concerns and demands to Drs. Randy Stinson and J. Ligon Duncan, III of the Council on Biblical Manhood and BIBLICALWomanhood (CBMW), demanding that they repent of their aberrant and sub-Christian doctrines.  (These individuals will receive original copies of the document on Tuesday, July 27, 2010, 10 AM, CST, according to the projection of Fed Ex tracking information.)Shirley Taylor, f … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Atheist

by SierraWilla was an atheist. A self-styled “unschooler,” she attended homeschool conventions and activities with her two children, Alexis (9) and Steven (5), and it was there that she met my mother. Willa’s husband worked in a field that I knew only abstractly as something involving computers and sales. He was a passive, taciturn man with whom I never exchanged a single word. Their children were boisterous, especially Alexis. Willa attached herself to my mother very quickly. Since Alexis was my age, we were an automatic source of play dates, which often really amounted to tea parties for our mothers. Common interests seemed to abound at first: homeschooling, books, and bargains. Both ador … [Read more...]

When It's Time to Let Go of an Unhealthy Relationship

by VyckieIt seems crazy to me now ~ but the thought of divorcing Warren did not seriously enter my mind until three days before I went to my attorney and filed the paperwork.Even at the height of my exasperation, when I could clearly see that Warren's behavior with the children was abusive and was slowly, day by day, crushing their spirits and stunting/warping their emotional growth ~ divorce was NOT an option.Among evangelicals there's a popular quote from Ruth Bell Graham ~ wife of evangelist, Billy Graham: I've never thought of divorce in all these 35 years of marriage ~ but, I did think of murder a few times. That was me too.  At one point, I was desperately praying to the Lord fo … [Read more...]

Christian Women Unite For Freedom From Evangelical Caste System

by Cindy KunsmanA movement among Christian men and women has begun in favor of functional equality and freedom from the evangelical caste system which subordinates many Christian women within their homes and churches. The freedom to live as autonomous human beings and to serve their Creator and Savior equally alongside Christian men is still being withheld from many Christian women.  The Seneca Falls 2 Evangelical Women’s Rights Convention seeks to address this growing problem within many sectors of Christianity.Seneca Falls 2 will commence in Orlando, Florida on Saturday July 24th, just a few days after the 162nd anniversary of the very first women's rights convention that was held in Se … [Read more...]

Out of the Matrix ~ Part 1: The next day, a floral arrangement arrived …

Warning: This story series contains descriptions of physical abuse.by CherylAnnHannahMy journey into and out of the Quiver Full movement is so intertwined with the abuse that my children and I experienced in my marriage that it is hard for me to tell the tale of being QF without mentioning the abuse as well.I had grown up in a Christian home, but at the age of 18 fell in love with the man who would become my husband. As is typical of a lot of teens allowed to spend too much time alone, we had sex and I ended up pregnant before my graduation from high school. My boyfriend completely freaked out and insisted on an abortion. I couldn’t go to my parents because my mother had told me when I … [Read more...]

"Miscarriage is for a moment; a soul is forever"

Doug Phillips' "Hopeful Theology of Miscarriage"Speaking this past weekend at "The Baby Conference," in San Antonio, Texas, Vision Forum speaker, Doug Phillips gave a talk entitled, "A Hopeful Theology of Miscarriage" ~ a summary of which, Phillips shared on his blog.After taking the position that not all children who die go to heaven ~ but only the "children called of God," Phillips discussed "the significant role that the unborn and young children play in God’s’ covenant of grace ..." and then added:Though acknowledging the sadness and loss of miscarriage — with he and his wife Beall having lost two unborn children — Doug offered two key points of hope that the loss of a child in the … [Read more...]

How To Keep Someone With You Forever

About a month ago, I came across this article:  How To Keep Someone With You Foreverfrom Issendai's Superhero Training Journal.  The message has been haunting me ever since because I believe it is so true of abusive, patriarchal relationships ~ and it was certainly the case in my own marriage.Quick summary:You create a sick system.A sick system has four basic rules:Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think.Rule 2: Keep them tired.Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved.Rule 4: Reward intermittently.Wow, huh?I would love to post the entire article here as the author goes on to explain exactly how to set up such a system ~ and so much of it sounded all too familiar to me.For e … [Read more...]

Christian Culture Clash: Fundamentalist Patriarchy and My Father’s Church

Part 1 ~ Our Church: Golgothaby Ex-AdrielSundays were my favorite. Early in the morning, before the sun rose, Father knocked on my bedroom door. I dressed quickly in the pre-dawn dimness, and we drove to church together, just us two. A quick stop for the customary chocolate crème pie from a gas station, and then we would be at Golgotha*, pulling into the empty lot before anyone else arrived for church.Father ran the bus ministry. In that morning stillness, I snuggled into an extra coat of his to protect my church dress, and ‘helped’ him check the fluids and tire pressure on the old school bus. When I was a young child, I rode with him off to the shelters to pick up all of the homeless w … [Read more...]


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