Oh its nice to get up in the morning, but its nicer to stay in bed.

I have had a dream for years of being a morning person.

I would (in my dream that is) get up early before everyone else. Have a cup of tea while reading my bible (or maybe even another book!) in the quiet of the early morning. Have breakfast steaming and ready when the babies and husband wake up, have everyone fed and dressed before nine o’clock.


I’m beginning to think this would only be a reality if someone came and carried me out of my bed, wrapped me in my fuzzy robe, made the breakfast and maybe even fed it to me too. And I gave up on that happening a while ago. I figured that I would just be forever destined to get a late start to my day. I would just make up for my sluggish morning starts in the evening when I have all that energy.

But in real life I have been blessed with toddlers that think the morning begins before the sun comes up, so I can’t just start late. And by the time I get them in bed at night the last thing I want to do is catch up on all the work I didn’t get done in the morning!

Typically I am awakened at 6 AM by my 2 ½ year old, I stumble out of bed and (after walking into the wall and then the door) make it to the bathroom where I supervise potty break and then drag myself to the couch where I doze after telling my 2 year old to “be nice and quiet”. My 20 month old wakes up by (or before) 7 AM, I am then forced to pull myself off the couch and make juice cups in an inevitable attempt to stem off the pre-breakfast hysteria.

My toddlers seem to have inherited my husbands low blood sugar. If they don’t receive sustenance within a few seconds of waking up they melt down. If I don’t work fast they will be laying on the floor wailing. But, if I take the fast route and give them cereal instead of eggs, they will be wailing 2 hours later when they are desperately hungry again, forcing the need for either a good breakfast or a mid-morning snack.

After feeding the masses, I usually eat something (leftovers?) and then attempt to get everyone changed and dressed. I usually accomplish this by 10, (this is not including cleaning up the kitchen after breakfast) by this time I am feeling pretty awake, I can move on to cleaning and going about the day. I usually get the bulk of my work done in the afternoons and evenings and spend from 8-10 or 11 PM with my hubby.

However, I don’t think this method is going to work much longer. I’m starting to hate the morning, and I hate it even more when it starts with screaming children and a frustrated husband.

I am not sure how to remedy this. As much as I have always dreaded getting up early, I really need to get the morning hysteria under control. The particularly bad mornings seem to affect the rest of my day badly, and I really want to do better.

How can a night owl (who detests getting up before the sun) make the mornings go more smoothly? How can I get my quiet, restful morning ( and maybe even that cup of tea) even if I have to get up and care for my family? How can I get our family’s day to start off in a peaceful happy way?

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00550847149908532903 Cass

    I am also a night owl and have been trying to figure this out for sometime now. I have yet to get it perfect, but it's getting better. For starters, I give my kids cereal first thing in the morning. I also give them a midmorning snack because that is when I sit down to eat my own breakfast. They eat a snack and then I either send them outside to play or set them up to color or do some other fairly quiet not too messy activity. While they are doing that I will enjoy my cup of tea and my Bible or another book. If the children are having a hard time playing on their own or want to join me I just turn that time into family Bible and prayer time. I will read the Bible out loud to them and when I am done with what I was planning to read that day we will quietly pray together for a little while. If they have joined me they are always very happy to play afterwards, which is when I can start cleaning up from breakfast because my tea is done and I finally feel at least mostly human.

    I hope that helps some. If you want to talk more let me know and I'll email you. Being a young mom of 3 under the age of 5 (plus 7 angel babies)I know it's not easy.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10254315970336710941 CM

    Wish I could help! I am a morning person, and I pretty well shut down in the evenings. Of course, I don't have kids to take care of, and I can still get behind in the mornings because there's so much that I want to get done, so sometimes I still leave late for work.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06374573594800663980 Kacie

    how about putting together an eggy casserole or something else with protein in it on the weekend. That way all you have to do is microwave and dish up, instead of make it fresh? Or, if possible, let the hubby dish it up for you? :)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08075072259006322851 ~ Judy ~

    Sounds like you have borrowed my children!
    What a TRUE SACRIFICE you will make if you surrender your desire to sleep in and give it to God by doing what you know would work better in your household…rising before your family!
    Hopefully, at least ONE of these ideas won't be so unappealing for you: I go with the worst, first!

    1) You COULD, TECHNICALLY, get up even EARLIER…I mean REALLY early…say 4:30 or 5 am…get all of those things prepared that you know the babies will whine for upon rising…take a few minutes to shower (or bird-bathe at the sink, LOL) offer a prayer for God to HELP YOU do this…get a bite to eat if you want…or even just stand outside alone and uninterrupted…and then…(stay with me…are you staying with me here? ::SMILE::) You COULD, TECHNICALLY go back to bed (IF needed) and then get back up with your children…but you won't be dragging so much by the daunting tasks ahead of you for most of them would be done and you'll already have had some time to yourself with the Lord!

    2) Since you are a night owl…get EVERYTHING you need in the morning, ready at night…you could even get in ready earlier in the day when you're in top-form…just prepare tomorrow' juice cups, breakfast supplies and other assorted items and set it aside or in the fridge…THERE! DONE! You will have an easier time in the morning and be so happy to have everything prepared and waiting for you!

    3)Do your children nap during the day? I know it's not the "usual"…but your state in life is such that you are already sleep-deprived and short on battery-charging time…so…do things a bit differently in your house this year…when the babies sleep…YOU SLEEP TOO!
    I give you permission….TAKE NAPS WHEN THEY DO…whatever it is you THINK you should be doing instead will STILL BE THERE when you get up…an earlier morning time won't feel so much like a punishment if you allow yourself to shut your eyes for a while when your Littles are resting mid-day.

    4) This one you might like ::SMILE::
    We moms always want to DO IT ALL…well… WE CAN'T…so…DON'T TRY….instead of forcing yourself to do something that is soooooo hard for you (i.e. rising before your family) EVERY SINGLE DAY…just make up your mind to do it ONE day a week…make it TWO if you feel up to it later on…and so on…but start with ONE day a week…tell yourself (and God so He'll help you with needed GRACES) that you will arise before your babies each and every FRIDAY (or day or your choice)…see how you feel…see what changes it brings…see if it helps…maybe ONE day is all you'll ever be able to master…but that's OK…that ONE day will be smoother and better for you than what you are experiencing now.

    Best wishes and GOD BLESS!
    YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00550847149908532903 Cass

    If you have a crockpot you could do an overnight oatmeal, egg casserole sort of thing, or something like that so you have a hot fresh meal to wake up to. Also, with a bread machine you could wake up to a fresh loaf of bread waiting for you.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02220512226096382610 SherryTex

    1) Breakfast comes from a toaster –waffles, bagels, toaster struddle, toast, toaster muffins, english muffins, what have you.

    2) Lay out their clothes the night beforehand in the living room or in a stack in the bathroom for after breakfast.

    3) paper plates, paper cups, paper napkins and plastic silverware. Teach the toddler to clear the table by throwing everything away. Let her wipe the table with a wet paper towel she also throws away.

    4) Change them/potty routine after breakfast –keep a spare set of tooth brushes for them in your bathroom if they have a separate one. If they're sticky or dirty, throw the two in the shower for a quick clean up with shampoo.

    5) Bring your tea and book in the bathroom with you while they shower and play with toys.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13674332089949439989 Young Mom

    This is awesome! Keep the ideas coming!

  • http://lifeandrhythm.wordpress.com/ lifeandrhythm

    I'm happy to have found your blog (via a comment on Swimming Upstream).

    I'm very much like you – definitely NOT a morning person! My suggestions are few, and perhaps similar to what others have posted, but I will share them:

    Do whatever you can the night before. Prepare French toast or a strata and have it in the fridge, so it come out and go straight into the oven for a nice, filling, hot breakfast. Even consider setting the table – perhaps a nice-looking table in the morning would inspire a little more perk in your step. It works for me sometimes. Be sure to begin breakfast with a special prayer – maybe a fun song to thank God for His blessings. I find it very helpful (even with my very young kids) to set a mood for the meal, which they're able to pick up on.

    Also, consider a cold cereal breakfast, but have a healthy, filling snack prepared for later: cheese and apple slices, perhaps. Make sure you also have the kettle filled the night before so you can get your tea made first thing! And remember that nobody cares if young children are still in their pajamas come 11am. :) Dressed for breakfast is optional.

    You might also get some tips from this blog post: http://ourmothersdaughters.blogspot.com/2009/01/can-your-new-years-resolutions-take.html

    I like this advice she offers: "Do better in the minimum anyone can expect from you, and you will do better in everything else."

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14586469381231517883 This Heavenly Life

    These comments are all so great! I'm not much of a morning person, either, so I'm trying to soak it all up, here :)

    Something that's helped me is to wake up just a little earlier than my earliest waking child, and get a quick shower. It really helps wake me up, and if I'm dressed and clean, I feel like the day is started. No lounging after that :)The more I sit around and be lazy, the harder it is to be joyful about being awake.

    And I agree with the ideas given above for preparing a casserole or something on the weekend or evenings that can be microwaved quickly in the mornings. I may try to implement that, here. And the toaster-food, too. Good ideas.

    One day at a time :)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08944990982584233095 Jessica

    I am struggling with this issue right now- mornings have been terrrible around here, and it makes the rest of the day feel bad . . . I'm "trying" to get up earlier- if I can only get a little bit of peace and quiet to myself it helps prepare me for the day . . . don't you just envy the people whose kids like to sleep in! :)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/13674332089949439989 Young Mom

    I know! How do they get them to sleep? I've already tried bribes!