Small moments that matter

I took my girls to the Dentist for their first routine check up.
That sounds simple, but it was a bit more complicated than that. The appointment was for Ms Action, but I knew that she is a little reticent to try new things, so I planned on letting Ms Drama tag along for a little peer pressure.
For days before the appointment we talked about it. Mommy went to Dentist, and opened her mouth really big and wide, and the nice Dentist brushed her teeth with a little brush and flossed them with a little string. It didn’t hurt, but it felt a little funny sometimes. YOU get to go to the Dentist too, and you will get to sit in the big chair and open YOUR mouth big and wide so the Dentist can count YOUR teeth. The the Dentist will brush YOUR teeth with a little brush, and floss them with a little string.
I talked about it until Ms Action began reciting “what the Dentist does” from memory every time I brought it up. The day of the appointment I looked up “The first Dentist appointment is not scary” on YouTube and let them watch a 9 minute video of a very calm and co-operative 3 year old boy getting his teeth cleaned. And we talked about how the little boy was opening his mouth big and wide.
When we got to the Dentist office, I was braced for the worst. Last time I brought Ms Action in for a Dr.s checkup she had refused to sit still, and climbed up my leg whimpering in an effort to keep the Dr from listening to her heart.
Actually, it went really well. The girls sat side by side in the dentist’s chair and watched cartoons and in general were just the cutest little things alive. Ms Action was shy about opening her mouth a few times, but once my 2 year old happily complied, the sisterly competition kicked in and they both did really well. Ms Drama loved the little foam fluoride trays so much that she clamped her jaws shut and refused to let the hygienist take them out of her mouth.They got their little stickers and thanked the Dentist before we left.
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My bigger picture moment appeared later the same day when I saw this video.
The story is of a little girl who died 9 months after her diagnosis with inoperable brain cancer.
I cried. To think of even the possibility of losing any of my babies is just to much. But the truth is, I can plan ahead, thinking about the future, “knowing” that I will be taking my kids to the Dentist every year for the rest of their childhoods. And I never know when one of my babies could be taken away from me.

It was a good reminder for me that each moment spent with my girls is special, every moment. I realized that all the time spent preparing for the Dentist, and equipping them to cope with childhood fears, is just as valuable as having a successful Dentists visit. All the time spent together reading books is just as important as the day she graduates from school. The time spent making sandwiches together, is just as important as having cake on her birthday. 

I often get sucked into thinking that the bigger picture means the “Big Moments”. But really, the bigger picture is made up of very small moments, and every day is full of them. Can I accept the challenge to cherish every day, every moment?
Bigger Picture Moment
Bigger Picture Moments is where we step back and take in life. This week it’s being hosted by Melissa at Peanut Butter in my hair. Hop over to her blog to read more about the Bigger Picture, and maybe share your own moment.

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  • cristina

    oh I so get this! we found out last night that my husband's step-brother was killed in a car accident. He was 29, not a baby, but still his mother's baby I'm sure. and I look at my babies and can't even fathom a life without them. Enjoying all the little moments is so important.

  • Jade @ Tasting Grace

    Beautiful sentiment.

  • Jill

    You are so right. It's easy to get caught up in the big moments when a thousand little ones just pass us by. Thanks for the reminder. And btw – glad the dentist appt. went well (my four-year-old is great about dentist/doctor/chiropractor…it's the two-year-old I'm dreading…you give me hope!)

  • Michelle

    "the bigger picture is made up of very small moments, and every day is full of them"

    I agree wholeheartedly. What a beautiful post.

  • Melissa

    I have lost a child and that experience has made me think this everyday. Don't get me wrong I am no saint, I get caught up and just want my kids to entertain themselves for two minutes but I am reminded over and over again when i look around at what could have been and brings me back to the moment.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Young Mom

    Cristina- I'm so sorry about your hubby's step brother. It's scary when people die so young. Thoughts and prayers with his family.

    Jill- I think that all the prepping I did this time made a HUGE difference. Hope your 2 year old gets a bit more relaxed. :)

    Melissa- It is amazing how people can change you when you never even got to meet them face to face. I've misscarried 2 babies, and they changed the way I look at my own parenting. Sometimes I catch myself assuming that now that they have been safely born they are safe, but sadly that is not the case.

  • Corinne

    First of all… I can't imagine wrangling both of my kids at the dentists…
    But what's more is I can't imagine not being able to do that.
    Beautiful post.

  • Hyacynth

    I must echo Corinne on both accounts …
    You are so right on when you say that it's really about the little moments that make up the bigger picture.
    This was a beautifully crafted moment. Thank you so much for sharing it.

  • Laanykidsmom

    This is such an awesome Bigger Picture post. You are right – it is made up of all the smaller moments we are anxious to rush through in order to just get through the day. I loved this post.

  • Sarah Pogorzelski

    This is a great post. I think we all go through it, it's so hard sometimes to deal with our kids but you're right, I can't imagine not dealing with them. Beautiful post.