September 2, 2018

Several years ago, when I was president of  National Fatherhood Initiative, I had the pleasure of working on a fantastic photography book project called, Choosing Fatherhood: America’s Second Chance. To create the piece, noted photographer Lewis Kostiner’s traveled the nation to meet with fathers from all walks of life, to hear their compelling and varied stories and, of course, take their pictures. As part of this project to be included in the book, I wrote the below essay, Want Good… Read more

August 17, 2018

Several months ago, I wrote a post titled, “What a Pro-Life Man Should Say When Told to Shut Up about Abortion.” The objective of the post was to address and debunk what I call the “no womb/no say” logic that is deployed to silence men in the abortion debate. Moreover, I wanted to expose and address the underlying principle of this logic, which is: unless one is impacted by an issue or action in the most direct way, one should… Read more

July 24, 2018

We all want to be effective communicators with our families, friends, and coworkers. However, we often miss the mark with sometimes dire consequences that can damage our relationships. So, why do we communicate so poorly so often? I submit that we get one or more of the 4Ms of Effective Communication wrong, which are: The Messenger – Who says the message The Message – What is said The Method – How the message is said The Moment – When the… Read more

July 1, 2018

When I was twenty years old, I did something that no Christian young man was supposed to do. I got my girlfriend pregnant. I can still remember, like it was yesterday, the moment I received the phone call from her to give me the news. She was crying. She was confused. And, she was terrified because she knew that she would have to tell her father, who had not quite embraced the idea of me dating his daughter. Plus, since… Read more

June 10, 2018

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about a problem his firm was having getting people to take action on social media posts. Specifically, they were trying to get more folks to sign up for a free course. So, they decided to do a test. Instead of asking someone to sign up for the course first, which was a bigger commitment, they decided to ask them to do something smaller, like click to agree with a statement. Then, after… Read more

April 14, 2018

  I recently met a young man from an Ivy League university that started a pro-life group on his campus. I am always excited to see men take a proactive stand for the sanctity of life, so I thanked him for his leadership. And then I asked if there was a particular obstacle he faced where I could be helpful. Without hesitation, he told me the pro-choice folks on campus often tell him that since he cannot get pregnant and… Read more

March 30, 2018

No doubt, you have seen that Stormy Daniels, the porn “star” who allegedly had a sexual liaison with Donald Trump, has become a media darling.  Now, given the stark partisan divide in our nation, there is a tendency to view this story solely through a political lens. However, I am most concerned about what this story, and how it is treated in the public square, says about our culture.  You see, her infamy is troubling.  After all, this is a… Read more

March 21, 2018

Recently, I started facilitating a men’s class for a group of fathers in a homeless shelter’s residential treatment program. I am using National Fatherhood Initiative’s evidence-based program called 24/7 Dad, which is designed to help men develop the skills they need to be involved, responsible and committed fathers. This is much needed by the guys in my class because years of substance abuse and addiction have frayed their connections to their children. As a class icebreaker, I gave each father… Read more

February 20, 2018

A few years ago, I participated in an Oprah Life Class with Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant. (You can see a clip of the show here.) The goal of the show was to address the troubling epidemic of sons growing up without their fathers. As support for the show, I was asked to write an article about what sons need from their fathers.  Below is what I wrote: __________________________________________________________________________ I am often asked what sons need from their fathers. My answer really… Read more

January 13, 2018

Recently, I was struggling to forgive someone. As a Christian, I knew that I should forgive, but it seemed that every time I replayed in my mind what this person had done to me, forgiving them was just so hard to do. You see, forgiveness is a sacrifice…a living sacrifice. Why? Because to truly forgive, you must put to death your “right” to take revenge, to spread gossip, or to give the offending party anything else you believe he or… Read more

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