On Proverbs, Job, and Why Victim Blaming is Next to Blasphemy

Image from William Blake's Illustrations of the Book of Job (via wikipedia commons)[Job in anguish, being comforted by his three friends and his wife]

I've been taking a class on the Psalms and Wisdom Literature, and reading both the books of Job and the books of Proverbs, which seem to take a drastically different approach to the topic of blaming victims.Proverbs is filled with statements about the way the world supposedly works: People who despise advice will find themselves in trouble; those who respect it will succeed (13:13)Poor is he who works with a negligent hand, But the hand of the diligent makes rich. (10:4)Commit your … [Read more...]

More Like N.T. Wrong, Amirite?: How N.T. Wright’s Bigotry Causes Him To Contradict His Own Theology

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In case you haven't heard, N.T. Wright--author of theology books such as Surprised By Hope and Simply Christian, and former Bishop of Durham--recently did an interview in which he compared people who support marriage equality to Nazis and Soviet Communists.Nazis.And Soviet Communists.While I'm not surprised that Wright is not on board with marriage equality (he's brought up his opposition to LGB people in several other places), I was a little shocked to hear a man who is considered, a … [Read more...]

A Benediction for My Fellow Queer Christians

For personal safety reasons, I'm going to ask anyone who chooses to share this post to please not tag me on any social media sites. Thank you.   ______________It's not a sin to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. And I don't mean it like some folk mean it--"It's not a sin to be gay! Just to act on your gayness." To quote my grandmother-in-law, "That's horse piss!" Acting gay, lesbian, or bisexual--finding members of your own sex attractive; crushing on, dating, marrying, flirting with, and/or sl … [Read more...]

This Guy Broke Up With His Girlfriend Using Only Memes (And I’m Not Laughing)

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[Content Note: Death Threats, Shootings, Violence Against Women]Sometimes I click on click-bait. I admit it. Sometimes I eat Taco Bell too. As you could probably guess, I often regret both shortly thereafter. I didn't eat a waffle taco this morning, but I did click on that story that's been going around about Kane Zipperman, teenage guy who broke up with his girlfriend using memes.And yes, I regretted it.At first I just closed the tab and rolled my eyes and went about my day as … [Read more...]

Modest Is Hottest: A Guest Post for No Shame Movement

Today, I'm over at No Shame Movement sharing my story about growing up in Christian purity culture. Check it out! Also, be sure to read the other stories at NSM, and follow No Shame Movement on Twitter! “What would happen if I bought this shirt three sizes too small?” I joked to my sister, as we waited for my mom to finish up her shopping at the Christian bookstore. The shirt in question was a woman’s tee shirt with the words “Modest Is Hottest” across the front.The sizes seemed to line up w … [Read more...]

What You Teach Your Kids When You Hit Them

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Until we live in a culture that not only respects but also upholds basic civil rights for children, most children will not know love. Love is as love does, and it is our responsibility to give children love. When we love children we acknowledge by our every action that they are not property, that they have rights--that we respect and uphold their rights. Without justice there can be no love. --bell hooks, All About Love Love and abuse cannot coexist. --bell hooks, All About Love[Content N … [Read more...]

Over the Moon for Paxil: Afraid to be Alive

[Content Note: Mental Health Issues, Eating Problems]This post is part of a series in which I blog through my journey of dealing with an anxiety disorder that nearly took over my life for a few months. These posts are based off of journal entries from the past few months and don't necessarily reflect how I am feeling write now. To learn more about this series, read the introduction post. On February 22, 2014, I started a journal about the mental health issues I'd been struggling with for … [Read more...]

Over The Moon For Paxil: A Possible Series Announcement

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I haven't been doing as much regular blogging as I used to. As I've talked about in other posts, I have been struggling with some serious mental health problems for the past few years. In the past six months or so, these problems managed to completely take over my life. That makes it hard to blog regularly. It's hard to concentrate on writing a coherent post when your brain can't stop panicking about other things, and when even the smallest activities--like putting a stamp on an envelope--seem … [Read more...]

Loving My Mind for Lent.

Last year, during Lent, I wrote what would turn out to be one of my most popular blog posts of all time. In this post, "Loving My Body for Lent," I decided that for Lent, I would give up the harmful teachings I'd inherited from purity culture, and I would take on a new attitude toward my own body. I’m setting it free from the hatred that I have directed toward it for years and years. I’m setting it free from any responsibility that the church tries to put on it for the sins of men. I’m setting i … [Read more...]

The Answer To Sexual Shame is Not MORE Sexual Shame, Carson T. Clark

[Content Note: Sexual and Spiritual Abuse]When I was 16, I dated an abuser who was constantly coercing me into having sex with him. I had been raised in fundamentalist purity culture, so I thought of sex as something gross and scary. My boyfriend at the time tried to combat those feelings by sending me on guilt trips and by holding me to his manipulative, subjective standards of "responsibility."He'd say things like, "You hugging me turned me on. You're a horrible person if you turn a … [Read more...]


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