We teach boys to abuse women. We teach girls that abuse = attraction.

When I was in elementary school, a group of boys in my class liked to pick on me. Sometimes they got really mean, and it bothered me, so I told on them. The teacher I talked to told me that they were "just being boys," and that they were probably doing it "because they like you!"When I was a freshman in college, I went to a church on Father's Day that preached a message about how to raise your sons. The pastor stated that there was something wrong with any boy who plays with Barbie dolls. Not … [Read more...]

Guest Post at Alise Write!

I'm guest posting at Alise Write's place today! I didn't write this piece specifically for Week of Mutuality, but I think it fits the theme. Because of the inequalities that women face in the church, many of us feel that we have to be careful not to be too much. We can't be too smart or too intelligent. We can't be too much of a leader or too good at what we do. We have to stay in our box of femininity and away from the church's low glass ceiling. But we shouldn't have to be afraid of being too m … [Read more...]

Reclaiming Complementarianism (A Week of Mutuality)

I know it's been awhile since I've written in this ol' thing, but since Rachel Held Evans is holding a Week of Mutuality at her blog, writing about women's equality in the church, I figured now was as good a time as any to dust off all my fears and laziness and be a writer again. In honor of this Week of Mutuality, I'm going to attempt to write a post every day this week concerning the intersections of Christianity and feminism. To join in on Week of Mutuality, use the hash tag … [Read more...]

The church needs to do a better job of talking about sex, and it knows it.

The evangelical church (in general--every time I paint the church in broad strokes like this I get people who share church experiences that look nothing like the picture I've just created, and that's awesome! I love hearing about your positive church experiences!) needs to do a better job of talking about sex.I think we all know that. I think even most churches know that. In fact, a lot of churches will admit it up front.I went to a church once where the preacher even began his sermon by … [Read more...]

Can you tell the difference?

An apparently all-powerful entity that crushes all those who rebel......that excessively blesses some while others starve to death.An entity that expects people to be thankful that the entity lets them live (provided they sacrifice the things they love the most) rather than destroying them completely due to an offense their distant ancestors committed.An entity that likes to take away the things people love the most to remind people how totally they are at its mercy......Now, am I … [Read more...]

Fear or Love?

Growing up in a Fundamental Baptist high school, I heard some ridiculous arguments against feminism. My favorite goes something like this: Feminists secretly hate women! That's right! They hate women, and let me tell you why! They want women to be equal to men. That means, they think women don't need men. Feminists won't let men hold doors open for them or pay for their dates. And they won't let men protect them! Chivalry is DEAD because of feminists. That's right.Oh, and don't forget. Fe … [Read more...]

Behold, my procrastination abilities!

Remember when I said last week that I was going to write about More Light Presbyterians the next day?Yeah, I didn't do that.I went to Ohio to go to Zombie Walk in Columbus instead.So, yeah. I didn't write about More Light Presbyterians. Sorry.I will get around to that! I PROMISE! And I promise I'll start writing everyday again. But, today, I'm just going to share this interview that I did for my internet friend Travis Mamone and the Something Beautiful podcast!It's been out for a … [Read more...]

Not them. Us.

This week, Amendment One passed in North Carolina. We all know this by now, I'm sure.And we all know who is responsible.I don't know what we Christians hope to accomplish. Even if you believe same-sex marriage is wrong (I personally do not think there is anything wrong with same-sex relationships--here is why. Please don't waste your time trying to argue it with me in the comments section because I've made a well-researched decision and you're not going to change my mind at this point), what … [Read more...]

When your home church doesn’t feel like home

I've been away from my hometown in Michigan for four years now, but I'm back, for at least a year.Only it doesn't feel like home right now.Parts do. I get along with my parents better than I ever did, and, now that I am no longer an angsty teenager, I can see them as humans...friends even. My siblings and I are as close as ever, and even though my best friend (since we were babies) is now all married and grown up, our relationship is the same as ever. Two of our three cats still like to … [Read more...]

A goodbye.

Update: When I wrote this piece last night, I was told that my grandma had a stroke and probably wasn't going to come out of it. I was told that if she did, she would be paralyzed or a vegetable. But she's a fighter and has recovered much better than expected. She's still not doing well, but I may go visit her in Florida next week, and hopefully I'll get to say a real goodbye. Thanks, everyone for your support.I guess this is the goodbye that I won't get to tell you.I'm here stuck at school … [Read more...]