Default Thinking

How easy it is for you to change your opinion? It can be a very difficult thing to do if an opinion has been cultivated over time, often as a result of what other people have convinced us is the truth.I once knew a woman who thought “The National Inquirer” was gospel. If she read something in that newspaper it was fact. It seemed ridiculous to me, even naïve. Unfortunately, that same line of thinking is seen today in what people believe after reading something on the Internet, see shared via … [Read More...]

Rewards and Consequences

Whether or not we are aware of it, the Universal Law of Cause and Effect operates at all times in our lives. Our thoughts, both conscious and unconscious, are constantly forming our reality. The results of those thoughts produce what we think are rewards and consequences.It is our ego that is into judging, not the Universe. We judge some outcomes and situations as rewards, sometimes even miracles. Other results we deem consequences or occasionally disasters.It is easiest to understand … [Read More...]


Snap Outta It!

Are you longing – even pining – for that one thing that will make everything perfect? Well stop it. It ain’t happening, sugar plum.Forgive me if this week’s blog is a little more “in your face” than normal. It’s meant to be offered in love, but it’s a tougher love than I’m normally known for. As I write this piece I realize there is an area of my life that is not just stagnate, but actually quite dead with apparently no desire for a resurrection.Jesus doesn’t appear to be rolling away the … [Read More...]


Giving Away Our Power

Is your life affected by the actions of others? More specifically, are you allowing someone else to stop you from having the life you want?Madisyn Taylor recently wrote, Often, when we’re unhappy, we fall into the habit of thinking that, if only one or two particular things in our life would change, everything would be fine. As she goes on to point out, that’s only true a small part of the time.Perhaps we are single, lonely and have little spendable income. We might think that if we had m … [Read More...]

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Be Yourself

Have you been told to just “be yourself?” What does that even mean? And, does the person know what they’re in for?We teach our children to express themselves, yet our public school system is set up all too often in a one-size-fits-all environment. I remember my mother looking for pantyhose one time and seeing “one-size-fits-all” on the display. She muttered, “Fits all of WHAT?!?”One size rarely fits all and that goes double for our personalities. Truth be told we are different to differen … [Read More...]

A Dance With Life

A Dance With LifeAre so excited to get to work that you almost can’t stand it?Sadly, many people will say “No.” Studies have shown the majority of workers don’t like their jobs .Work is drudgery, paying our dues, a necessity evil.Geez…if THAT’S the way we think about it no wonder people don’t want to go to work! Would YOU want to go to a party that was going to be miserable? I wouldn’t.That’s not how work has to be. In my new book coming out soon, “How to Find Your Vision and Get … [Read More...]


Celebrating Our Failures

There is a danger about living our lives in a positive way. What’s that, you ask?We may feel ashamed when things don’t turn out the way we thought they would. We might feel that if our desires are sincere then the outcome should be assured. To avoid the pain we may even refuse to admit the situation.“What a wonderful opportunity I’m having,” we may say when our experience goes south. Okay, I get it. I know bad events, even tragedies, can turn out months or years later to have a blessing o … [Read More...]


Why Did This Happen?

I originally wrote parts of this week’s blog shortly after Malaysian Airlines flight 370 went missing. A recent event in my own life has had me once again asking the same question - over and over and over again:  Why did this happen?Something very personal in my extended family happened last week. My niece, Kalee Scolatti, was shot and killed along with a long-time family friend, TJ, who was like a big brother to her. Their murders were at the hand of Kalee’s estranged husband, who then turn … [Read More...]

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How Big Is Your Package?

Do you like to receive presents? I think most people would say “yes,” but do our actions support that answer?The books by Spencer Johnson about “The Present” show how living in the present is a present, one that we can give to ourselves if we choose. How would that be if you saw your current situation wrapped up like a beautiful package for a special occasion?Depending on how your day is going you might think, “Yeah, right! Some present!” Most of the time We can get so wrapped up in our o … [Read More...]


How Vulnerable Are You?

Seeing people with their noses buried in their devices is something I’m becoming more aware of in the past year. When my niece visited last year we saw more of her forehead than her eyes. I knew she was in bed from the radiant glow of her device snuggled in beside her. I now work with a number of 20-somethings that seem to be more connected to their device than to their duties at hand. At the risk of sounding my age I fear I might becoming a crank old man!I have felt for a long time that the … [Read More...]