Post debate musings of a policially-mixed couple

First, this article sums it all up: The world is still almost irredeemably sexist. Anything Hillary has done, or even has been accused of doing, would have been celebrated or ignored if she had been male. It’s time to stop pretending that this is about substance. This is about an eagerness to believe that a woman [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: how did we let social media take over our minds?

Dear Thoughtful Pastor:  been noticing of late how intrusive I’ve let social media and media consumption in general become. So I’ve been banishing the tablet from my bed three nights a week, which has made me antsy and itchy. And, irony of ironies, I’ve downloaded headspace, a meditation app. Believe it or not, a seasoned [Read More…]

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The penchant for purity will kill the church

I am watching from a distance as I see The United Methodist Church slowly disintegrate into irreconcilable factions led, kind of, by a group of paralyzed Bishops. At this point, they appear to be unable to even come to a consensus on who to put on a committee to address the issues nibbling away and destroying [Read More…]

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The Debate Version of When an “anyone but Hillary” is married to an “anyone but Donald

Separate rooms, separate TV’s. For the first time in our married life, we will not watch TV together. It’s been one of our things: if we are going to watch TV, we need to do it together. We’ve done this from the beginning and will continue to do so. But not tonight. We talked about [Read More…]

When an “anyone but Donald” is married to an “anyone but Hillary” part seven

This is a series of the ongoing saga of a newly married couple with radically different political views. Part one is here. Part two is here. Part three is here. Part four is here. Part five is here. Part six is here. I honestly do keep trying to convince myself that all will somehow be OK even [Read More…]

STORKS: just plain good family fun

I was invited to review STORKS last night. It opens in wide release this weekend. After settling in the seats reserved for the press, I noticed that there were a lot of young children present for the preview. Lots of restlessness in the theater and I picked up on curt corrections of some harried parents. [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: how did you escape your right-wing religious past?

Dear Thoughtful Pastor: To say the religious right wreacked havoc with my spiritual life would be an understatement. It has been several years since my wife and I made our exit from that world and we still have not recovered. I still have anger and bitterness that I deal with. Unfortunately, we live in the [Read More…]

Ask the Thoughtful Pastor: birth control, barrenness, and God’s curse

Dear Thoughtful Pastor: I have family members who believe that using birth control is sinful because children are a blessing from God. They believe that people who use birth control are not only sinful but exceedingly selfish for not wanting children. They also believe that barrenness is a curse from God. I think they are [Read More…]

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The view from the pew, reflections from a retired clergy: guilt and peace edition

The Guilt Factor I’ve been retired from formal ministry for nearly three years now. Frankly, Christianity looks a lot different from the pew–and away from the church bubble. I just wrote a resignation letter to a non-profit agency where I have sat on the Board of Directors. I believe strongly in the mission and appreciate the [Read More…]

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Murdering hands, dead acquaintances, broken logic

Countless times I have touched someone and they ended up dead just a few days or even hours later. Some were dear friends, others I had just met. Then there is my mother, my father, my father’s brother, a close neighbor and friend–all four of these I was with either the day they died or [Read More…]