What Husbands Need Most From Their Wives (Part 2)

Emotional Need #6: Sexual intimacy 

OK, you knew this topic would show up somewhere. But a light bulb may go off when you realize why. It is not primarily a “physical thing.” Feeling desired is actually emotionally vital for many men. (Just as it is for many women.)  

Many men in the research shared that if they make a move and their wife says not now, what they may hear is “not you.” In this vulnerable area, it is easy to feel rejected and isolated. 

On the other hand, in the For Women Only data, 77% of men stated that regular sexual intimacy with a wife who wanted to be with him, would improve his sense of well-being and satisfaction with all of life. It is often that powerful!  

 Some practical ideas to foster intimacy (and again, as mentioned in Part 1, if you are in a toxic relationship, these do not apply): 

• Put a reminder in your phone to initiate, if it has been a while. 

• If you’re not “in the mood,” make sure he knows that it is a timing issue. (“Honey, it’s been such a hard day, how about Saturday instead?”) If it takes you awhile to get “in the mood,” encourage your husband to drop affectionate, playful hints and give you anticipation time. 

• If there are obstacles to intimacy – anything from sexual pain to not feeling close enough right now – work through those in whatever way is needed. Get the medical help or the marriage counseling (see secretsofsexandmarriage.com for referral options). This part of marriage is important for both of you.  

Hopefully all that we covered will give you some great opportunities for conversation and closeness with your man. For the next two weeks, we’ll look at what wives need most from their husbands.  

In the meantime, what’s one step from this week’s blog you’re willing to try today? I’d love to read your comments! 

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