What Wives Need Most From Their Husbands (Part 1)

What Wives Need Most From Their Husbands (Part 1) February 27, 2024

This is the next installment of a multi-part series on what our spouses need deep down inside, but may not always articulate. In Part 1 and Part 2, we focused on what most husbands need. This week and next, we peer into the secret, inner longings of most women. 

Men, have you ever wondered why your wife asks you how she looks when you just told her she looks fine? Or why she takes your need for space as a signal that you’re upset with her? 

If you feel like you need a secret decoder ring, you are not alone. 

This week and next, we’re going to peer into the inner needs of many women and “decode” what’s really being said. (Or, in some cases, not said.) This is based not on opinion or a few informal polls, but on twenty years of rigorous data – including multiple nationally representative surveys – from more than 20,000 women for my book For Men Only and others. 

We hope this will help you understand what makes your wife tick, and help you love her in ways that actually make her feel loved. 

A few caveats: Although these findings are true of most women, there are always exceptions. Further, some men will look at these needs and realize that you feel exactly the same way! This is also not a comprehensive list. Pro tip: to truly understand your wife – and make her feel very loved – pick up a copy of For Men Only and ask her to read and discuss it with you. 

Ready to dive in? Let’s tackle three common needs of women this week and three more next week – including the biggest, deepest longing of a woman’s heart. 


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