“I Got Divorced too Quickly… but Maybe it Can Work”

Last updated on: May 5, 2023 at 5:59 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

For those who newly have hope – reach out for support, especially through your church. This is one reason I’m passionate about every church having some form of regular encouragement for marriages, rather than just an ad hoc, case-by-case situation (which often primarily means referrals to counselors when someone is in trouble). Thankfully, the church where I met the woman I mentioned already had a marriage ministry she could plug into. If your church doesn’t have a marriage ministry, and you are someone who cares about marriage … offer to help the church start one! Imagine what a difference it would make for a newly hopeful couple to be able to connect with other couples who are ahead of them on the journey – for example in small groups, a marriage mentor ministry, or a Sunday school class. Read more

4 Easy Ways to Start Helping Kids Understand Their Feelings

Last updated on: May 1, 2023 at 6:06 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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The time is now to help our kids understand their emotions and for us to be able to openly talk to them about their feelings, fears, and anxieties. And when they become well-versed in understanding their emotions, studies are finding there are long term benefits for them such as having better mental health, stress management skills, conflict resolution skills, more responsibility, and resiliency. Read more

The Good Thing About Being the Bad Guy, Part 2

Last updated on: April 24, 2023 at 3:39 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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being the parent rather than the friend doesn’t mean swinging the pendulum of rules enforcement back to a pattern that was more appropriate for early childhood! In a few months or a few years, your teenager will be flying on their own – so now is when they should both be able to earn and experiment with the freedoms they are pushing for and know that a parent is looking over their shoulder to see how they are handling those freedoms. Read more

The Good Thing About Being the Bad Guy, Part 1

Last updated on: April 19, 2023 at 2:26 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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This is a two-part blog to encourage and equip parents of teenagers. In this part 1, we share an encouraging big-picture truth. In part 2 we share strategies to help you implement it. Pass this along to a parent who needs it! As a mom who has been launching young-adult kids into the college and career phases of life, I was delighted recently when my daughter wanted help shopping for clothes for her first “real” job. As she walked up... Read more

When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part One.

Last updated on: April 12, 2023 at 10:23 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Conflict over sexual desire is often really difficult for couples to work through, especially since many don’t have the critical tools they need. Since you must understand each other to make progress, the most important tool is good communication. Read more

God is on the Move at Harvard – and in our World

Last updated on: April 5, 2023 at 3:30 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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The gathering of hundreds of Christians at Harvard last weekend is only part of what God is doing in our world – just one visible and amazing example of His hand at work. Over and over again, unplanned, Isaiah 43:19 was referenced: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Read more

8 Relationship Roadblocks that Sabotage Young Couples – Part 3

Last updated on: March 29, 2023 at 9:42 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Many couples focus on concepts like “compatibility” when considering whether to tie the knot with their significant other. Are we compatible in temperament? In conflict management styles? In sexual interest? There’s nothing wrong with digging into all of that – as noted in Part 2, we should dig into all those questions and many others! But we also have to realize that “Are we compatible?” is often just another way of saying, “Is this person going to make me happy?” Read more

8 Relationship Roadblocks that Sabotage Young Couples – Part 2

Last updated on: March 20, 2023 at 4:12 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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This is Part 2 of a three-part series for young twenty-something couples pondering marriage – and those who love them. Please pass Part 1 and this Part 2 along to someone who needs it and encourage them to sign up for this blog to see Part 3 as well. I want to tell you about two young couples. Couple A: One of my team members can’t stop talking about the wedding she attended recently in Texas. Her 24-year-old niece tied... Read more

8 Relationship Roadblocks that Sabotage Young Couples – Part 1

Last updated on: March 15, 2023 at 5:38 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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Why are people waiting longer? Are young adults maturing more slowly? Seeking adventure and independence before committing to marriage? Skeptical about marriage as in institution? Making a choice to cohabit before (and perhaps instead of) getting married? According to various studies, the reason likely includes all of the above factors (and others) to varying degrees. And certain reasons for waiting are not all bad. Read more

How Kind Are You?

Last updated on: March 8, 2023 at 8:35 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

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We teach our children to be kind to others. We remind a struggling friend to “be kind to yourself.” Kindness is a trait we hold to, and appreciate in others. If you pause right now, you can likely think of the kindest people you know without too much difficulty. We value kindness as a fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). Read more