As wives, we have the sacred privilege of realizing how tender our husbands’ hearts really are. (Just as they do with us.) So even if your man projects confidence, it’s crucial to know that on the inside, most men regularly feel real self-doubt. They question themselves as a husband and as a father: 76% of men in my nationally representative survey confessed they are not as confident as they look. Read more
This is the first part of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. This week and next, we are focusing on husbands. After that, we’ll focus on wives. You read the headline, and you’re pretty sure you know the answer. Sex, right? Yes, sexual intimacy does make list of what husbands are longing for in their relationship with their wives. But the nationally representative research for my bestselling book For Women Only – and... Read more
Friends, we have to do the same thing. We may have no idea how God will accomplish something in our lives. We may not know how we will pay the bills, get a new job, or repair the new roof after the storm. All we know is that He has promised to provide – and He has something great on the other side. We know this because as we look back, we can see that God has delivered us to the other side of our personal Jordan River again and again. Read more
imple Superpowers Series, Part 4: Researchers have identified simple superpowers that help us flourish in our lives and relationships. In parts 1 and 2 we looked at gratitude and curiosity and last week we focused on why forgiveness is a superpower. This time, we get practical and cover why we resist forgiving others, and how to actually forgive. Read more
n this life we are 100% sure to be hurt by others. And without forgiveness, we are also 100% sure to be in a regular state of bitterness and anger. Research finds this is extremely damaging. In fact, some researchers are pushing for regular bitterness to be labeled an official medical disorder. Forgiveness is the only action that can set us free and allow us to live a thriving life instead. Read more
In other words: Because you saw something from under the surface that was visible for a moment, you were instantly curious. That exact same sense of curiosity is essential for creating and growing great relationships. The problem is, we often lose that curiosity about the under-the-surface things in our spouse (or our kids, or friends …). If we can recapture it, we have seen in the data that it leads to deepened trust, safety, and intimacy. Here are three steps to doing so. Read more
If we want to make changes in our lives and relationships in the new year, where should we put our attention? What “little things” will make the biggest difference? Researchers have identified actions that have an outsized – almost miraculous – impact for human flourishing. We call these the simple superpowers and examine three in this series. Today’s Part 1 focuses on attitude. For a few days not long ago, I kept an eye on the social media presence of... Read more
Our “best-of” blogs for 2023 included a focus on marriage, relationships, and parenting – especially on dads. We looked at what builds relationships (e.g. kindness, listening, and gratitude) and what threatens relationships (e.g. defensiveness, sarcasm, and suspicion). Read more
If we keep separate accounts we simply don’t feel as accountable to our partner. We are more likely to buy something we want, when we want it. (It doesn’t really matter if I buy the more expensive Christmas present, right?) By contrast, joining all accounts means we have to discuss and negotiate spending with one another ─ which helps us clarify wants versus needs, when to buy discretionary things, and holds us accountable. Read more
In my series for Empty Nest parents this fall (see part 1, part 2 and part 3), we explored how to respect adult kids’ boundaries and switch our mindset from counselor to coach. But the essential next-step question is: what do they most want us to know? Read more
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