You’ve Been Betrayed. Now What?

You’ve Been Betrayed. Now What? May 15, 2019

Have you ever been betrayed by a close friend or family member? Many of us have, but you’re not alone. Here are several examples about betrayal.

Jesus’ Betrayal

Judas receiving thirty pieces of silver for betraying Jesus, by Mattia Preti, c. 1640.

When David wrote some of the Messianic Psalms, he include in Psalm 41 a prophecy about Jesus Christ’s betrayal, writing, “Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me” (Psalm 41:9), and exactly as prophesied, the Bible says that Judas “sought an opportunity to betray him” (Matt 26:16)…”him” meaning Christ. When Jesus saw His betrayer, “Jesus said to him, “Judas, would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss” (Luke 22:48)? It was only after Judas saw that Jesus was going to be crucified that “he changed his mind and brought back the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests and the elders” (Matt 27:3b), but by then, it was too late. This explains why “Jesus was troubled in his spirit, and testified, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, one of you will betray me’” (John 13:21), even though Jesus knew from the beginning who it was. Not only would Judas betray Jesus, but Jesus told the disciples that in their lifetime, “many will fall away and betray one another and hate one another” (Matt 24:10). Even though the Jewish leaders “were glad, and agreed to give him money so [Judas] consented and sought an opportunity to betray him to them in the absence of a crowd” (Luke 22:5-6), but this too was part of the sovereign will of God (Mark 10:45; John 3:16-17).

Our Betrayal

Have you ever had a close friend or family member betray you? It seems that the closer the person is to you, the more it hurts, and sad as it is, we often hurt the ones we love the most, but these are the ones that hurt us the most too. When we trust someone, but then find out we’ve been gossiped about, or “thrown under the bus” by someone close to us, it hurts worse because we loved them and trusted them. David knew a lot about betrayal by close friends and acquaintances when he was running for his life from King Saul. He wrote, “For it is not an enemy who taunts me— then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me— then I could hide from him. But it is you, a man, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend” (Psalm 55:12-13). It hurts worse when it’s those we least expect to betray us because we trusted them. This has led to the ruin of many relationships. Job had enough suffering that the last thing he needed was his “friends” chastising him. He finally had enough and wrote, “All my intimate friends abhor me, and those whom I loved have turned against me” (John 19:9). Even “his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast your integrity? Curse God and die” (Job 2:9). Not exactly the loving support you expect from your spouse. Delilah betrayed Samson for thousands of pieces of silver (Judges 16:5). In her scheming, she “said to him, How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times, and you have not told me where your great strength lies” (Judge 16:15). Of course it wasn’t love but a cunning scheme to have Samson destroyed, and it worked.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is hard when you’ve been betrayed, but maybe we should ask ourselves, have we betrayed someone else? Maybe not betray them in the strictest sense, but by gossiping about them, not standing up for them when someone says something bad about them, or maybe we still hold a grudge about something they did. Jesus said that “if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matt 6:14-15). If you’ve not forgiven someone, but have received and are expecting forgiveness from God, it seems hypocritical to not forgiven others. This doesn’t mean you’ve lost your salvation, but a person who’s been redeemed by God for infinitely more sin that we’ve sinned ever against others, should not withhold forgiveness from others. God doesn’t withhold forgiveness from us. As for gossip, it’s really slandering someone’s reputation or name, and God promises that “A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will not escape” (Prov 19:5). The truth that Jesus spoke, that “whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets” (Matt 7:12), goes both ways. You would not want someone gossiping or betraying or not forgiving you, would you, so must never gossip, betray, or be unforgiving of one another.

Gossip

I consider gossip a form of slander in the sense that you are passing along or listening to something that may or may not be true, and if it’s true, then it’s not helpful to pass it along anyway. If it’s not true, it’s even worse to pass it along. There’ve been a lot of civil lawsuits that found in favor of those who were slandered, so it’s a serious issue in society today, but more so to God. Solomon wrote that “A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends” (Prov 16:28). If you know you’re being gossiped about, how does it make you feel? Most people feel angry, betrayed, embarrassed, and hurt. Now imagine what others feel like when we not only listen to gossip, but when we pass it on to others…whether it’s true or not. Sometimes the word slander and gossip are used interchangeably in Scripture, but the Bible never says anything good about gossip (Ezk 36:3; Rom 1:29; 2 Cor 12:20; 1 Tim 5:13). Throughout the Old Testament, Israel was taught, “You shall not go around as a slanderer among your people, and you shall not stand up against the life of your neighbor: I am the Lord” (Lev 19:16). God says, “Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure” (Psalm 101:5). Jesus equated gossip with some of the most evil sins found in the human heart, saying it is “out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander” (Matt 15:19).

Conclusion

Almost everyone’s been betrayed by a friend at one time or another, so take heart; you’re not alone. Maybe these Bible events and Scriptures will help you put it all into context. Just about everyone I know has been betrayed to some degree or another, but one thing we know; we cannot change people, we can only change how we react to them. My wife’s wisdom in this area is spot on. God alone can change the human heart (Prov 21:1). All we can do is forgive and be forgiving, and be a trustworthy friend or family member, never betraying one another…especially those we love the most. That’s because those hurt the most.

Article by Jack Wellman

Jack Wellman is a Pastor and Prison Minister in the State of Kansas. Jack is also a writer at Christian Quotes and Senior Writer at What Christians Want To Know whose mission is to equip, encourage, and energize Christians and to address questions about the believer’s daily walk with God and the Bible. You can follow Jack on Google Plus or check out his book Teaching Children the Gospel available on Amazon.

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  • The church’s entire purpose is betrayal.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QS2bqLBpqws

    • Susan Jane Elohim

      Stop rebelling against God. The saints on the Christian Crier blog have you added to their prayer that all atheists on this blog and everywhere in the world come into compliance with the will of God and accept Jesus and God’s will for their lives unconditionally.

      God is Holy and knows what is best for you. So stop cutting up on message boards and love and submit to Jesus so God will make a way for you to have a blessed holy filled life right now.

      And beware of bad counsel. And bad company. The devil has dissemminated it all over the world and on the Net and likes to lure you into dens of iniquity.

      Escape the devil and come under Jesus’ protection today.

      Bad company’s influence and consequences:
      https://biblereasons.com/bad-company/

      Be sure to read the hyperlinks on peer pressure, etc. And don’t let the devil keep compromising your will. God will strengthen you if you read His Word and let Him. He exists and is all powerful but prefers people to exist in peaceful cooperation with Him as His lovingly obedient children.

      • pud

        You’re insane.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          No offense intended but I think you have a personality disorder.

          You are dismissing God like you think you are God and that’s not normal.

          You have no right to attempt to illegally deprogram people either.

          Especially not by using verbal abuse.

          Someone must have verbally abused you or IS verbally abusing you and has broken you into thinking you have the right to use verbal abuse on people but you don’t.

          So go see a mental health counselor and ask him why you are engaging in personal attacks on the Internet and are unable to restrain yourself. You could have a chemical imbalance that needs checking.

      • I am not an atheist in the slightest. You people listen to your preachers too much. I listened to the preacher in church but I could also read.

        ‘Jesus answered, “If I glorify myself, my glory is nothing. It is my Father who glorifies me, he of whom you say, ‘He is our God,’ though you do not know him. But I know him; if I would say that I do not know him, I would be a liar like you. But I do know him and I keep his word.”‘

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5-AuhvB9n8

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          Yeah, well whatever your point is you failed to communicate it precisely.

          • Really? I am King of Kings, Son of Chaos.

            Christianity, Judaism, and Islam are anathema. Human beings who have rejected their creator have no purpose. You are a “robot” – you have eyes, ears, nose, touch receptors, and tongue. You have to use these to put information into your brain. The Church demands you close your eyes and ears forever. There’s nothing I can do about that. There’s nothing God will do about that. When Fukushima nuclear plant blew up in Japan did it clean itself up? Nope – people have to choose to do that.

            I am King and not “Herod” or any other Moses follower because I actually care about people – but life on Earth is still life on Earth – full of starvation, disease, death, violence, crime, injury, and suffering.

            Nobody can teach anything to people whose philosophy is “shoot first, ask no questions later.’ That is the “philosophy” of Abrahamic religion.

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=it_1NmN341A

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            Well not sure where you got the idea that Christianity is a shoot first religion. Far from it in my opinion.

            Jesus encouraged his people to love others and practice charity.

            I know of a Cambodian Buddhist who left Buddhism because Christians are charitable in their communities.

            Google “Love A Child” and take a look at all the charitable activities the missionaries are engaging in to help the devastated Haitians. That is not “shoot it out” whatever that means.

            Cya. Have to agree to disagree with you.

          • What you believe has no bearing whatsoever on any gods. Your religion is illegal under divine law – period – end of story. “You are of your Father the devil.” – John 8:44

            That doesn’t mean everyone in the religion is in violation of divine law – but they’re not doing anything for themselves by being there.

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVNG1PLcRUA

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            You are not making sense.

            And Jesus was not talking to believers in him in John 8:44.

            I hope you find a good teacher on the Bible so you can come to know God.

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            From 1 Cor. 15

            33Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”d 34Sober up as you ought, and stop sinning; for some of you are ignorant of God. I say this to your shame.

            Quote:

            Bible verses about bad company

            The people who we’re with really do affect us in life. If we’re with false teachers we will be influenced by false teachings. If we’re with gossipers we will be influenced to listen and gossip. If we hang around pot smokers most likely we will smoke pot. If we hang around drunkards most likely we will become drunkards. Christians are to try to help others get saved, but if someone refuses to listen and continues in their evil ways watch out.

            It would be very wise not to make friends with bad people. Bad company can lead you to do things that are not suitable for Christians. It can be an unbelieving boyfriend or girlfriend, it can be an ungodly family member, etc. Never forget peer pressure comes from bad and fake friends. It’s true and it will always be true “bad company ruins good morals.”

            Other Quotes:

            “Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.”

            “You can’t keep a clean reputation hanging around messy people.”

            More here:
            https://biblereasons.com/bad-company/

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            Please stop calling yourself King of kings. That is Jesus’ title.

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            Here are the commandments of Jesus:

            https://www.trusting-in-jesus.com/Commandments-of-Jesus.html

            Words of Jesus below from Matthew 22.. Notice the first and greatest commandment is to put God first ahead of people because the people depend on God’s leadership. God doesn’t depend on people. He’s totally powerful and self sufficient and nobody counsels Him.

            God leads His people. His people follow Him in spite of all the people acting like they know better than God and God put his book in the world to help the Spirit of God lead His people in the name of Jesus and Jesus only.

            The Great Commandment
            34 But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. 35 And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. 36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment. 39 And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40 On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            The Church is the Bride of Christ and is made up of people who are born again in the image of God.

            You ought to be concerned that there are people in this world who would like to prevent Holy God’s nature from being restored to you personally.

            Jesus WILL marry the Church because God never breaks His promises.

            Just be sure you ARE the Church and not some cheap counterfeit the world likes to sow into people’s souls so they cease to be true disciples and all God intends them to be.

            Yes, the false prophets like to get into the Church but learn to be godly and guard your heart and put on the whole armor of God.

            If you’re fully dedicated and consecrated to God then how can the evil people keep you for long?

            They can’t because Jesus will always be setting you free of them both spiritually and literally and motivating you to walk like God among people.

            How can the world beat that? It can try but you can’t keep a godly man down can you?

            Don’t be fooled by appearances. Look to Jesus, keep your eyes on him and take every thought captive to him and the way, the truth and the life will come into perspective so you can actually start to live it.

            Jesus didn’t teach and preach anything that a true disciple cannot put into practice starting with himself.

            So find the successful spiritual role models and stick to them and that is Jesus, too.

            The people who never even tried to follow Jesus are usually the ones always attempting to drag him and the disciples down.

            Don’t be one of them.

            Focus on Jesus and let him make you a spiritual success.

            The devil can’t keep a good man down.

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            And there is no religion.

            There’s only Jesus who gives people the Spirit and teaches God’s way. Not the world’s way and not in a worldly manner.

            In God’s way.

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            All God wants is a few good men (and women). He changed the whole world just using one: Jesus.

            Look what He did with Gideon’s Army. He recruited the best and sent the rest home. God can make their election sure.

            https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Lk87OJkX980&list=RDLk87OJkX980&start_radio=1

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            https://l.patheos.com/ebook-mdriscoll-signup/?track1=House_MDM_P&sourceid=83

            Above is the free ebook:

            Who Is God? By Mark Driscoll

            That is the starting point of knowing God. By knowing who He is.

          • Yes Jesus says to “love your enemy” and “turn the other cheek,” because “Yahweh” teaches you to “shoot first and ask no questions later.” So the scuzbucket murdering rapists that follow “Yahweh” took the gospels and sealed them in with the rest of their terrorist dogma and called it all “100% word of God.” And now billions are enslaved to the egos of Priests/Rabbis/Imams who refuse to acknowledge they’re murderers, frauds, extortionists, and kidnappers and not “theological experts.”

            And they breed millions of little narcissistic clones like you are and like I was growing up who go on to poison more and more people with “Yahweh” in the “name of Jesus.”

            It’s called the “Dunning-Kruger Effect” – where people think they know what they’re talking about but they have no clue at all.

            After learning “Son of God” is the title of the Pharaoh – I have no reason to live any more because I loved Jesus more than anything growing up and I couldn’t deal with the fact that “Yahweh” is his “Father” and when I became an atheist it tore out my heart because I believed “Jesus” isn’t real. And then a a little over a decade later I discovered the documents were about murdering the King, not about a magic superman “dying for my sins.”

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r9P4_ivEn34

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            Done talking then. You lied. Said you weren’t an atheist and now you are.

            I hope you get your heart right with God.

            You never had true faith. You failed to abide in Jesus. See John 15 on it.

            Without faith it is impossible to please God and you’re still walking in darkness so don’t moralize or lecture people who are abiding in Jesus.

            You have a heart issue to examine. I would do that and stop false teaching until you do.

            I am putting you on block. I don’t discuss religion with people rebelling against God.

            The rebels contain the narcissists. You have to be humble to receive faith and abide in Jesus.

            You probably blocked God with idol worship to yourself.

            You’re not the King of kings. Just some dude on the Net who never knew God enough to have true faith.

            Have a blessed day.

          • I’m not an atheist. I also have faith in a living God – not a dead terrorist manifesto like the church tried to tell me. I became an atheist for a while, but then I met a god. Jesus said I may have to die being persecuted for him, and I may have to do so because the church stole the King’s name and told me to act and speak in his name. Now a god has a “gun to my head” forcing me to claim I am the King for whatever reason. It doesn’t appear to happen to anyone else here who was raised on the Bible, so I don’t know why it’s happening to me.and as far as I know there hasn’t really been an actual King on Earth for like 1700 years – at least not in western civilization.

            But, I mean, who knows what could be real after being homeschooled by people in a church that stole God’s name and stole the King’s name? I don’t know the full extent of my actual god’s power.

            https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/8012fac2ec0c0c452068c13c1257d4c711e5e4150f0cd0e48b3424bf70792e4b.png

          • kaikkonen

            Not “I am” but the Great I AM! King of kings and Lord of lords, Alpha and Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the ending. His Name JESUS for He shall save His people from their sins … Emmanuel, being interpreted, God with us!” (Matthew 1:21-23) Ads for the current worldly situation, we only have to understand what the Lord said through the prophet Hosea, “My people perish for lack of knowledge!” (Hosea 4:6) The famine in the land, as Amos prophesies, is not of food or water, but of the Word of God. Galatians 3 and 4 elaborates on Abraham but suffice for now — Galatians 3:29 — “And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise!” Hallelujah praise Jesus — for we now know that He is both Lord and Christ. (Acts 2:36-41)

        • pud

          It’s a made up make believe STORY. No “jesus” ever said anything to anyone.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          You may be a believer busy discovering the shortcomings of the Church.

          Here is something for you to read:

          Exposing the Enemy’s explanation
          http://www.exposingtheenemy.com/what-we-believe/–spiritual-warfare/the-serpent-s-seed

          And Dr. Martin explaining how Magus tried to undermine the Church:
          http://www.hope-of-israel.org/simonmagus.html

          Remember you are Never Alone:
          https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=srGIp4LO-XM

          All you need is Jesus
          https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4wNpOeakhEM

          God qualifies those He calls. Theology school is only an assist and some theologians are better workman at constructing the scriptures than others.

          Be sure to ask for increases in faith regularly and all the spiritual gifts and read and meditate on the Word.

          God Bless!

          Chris Pinto also has some videos on youtube explaining some errors in the Church.

          As does the Tentmaker site.

          Check them all out. Write down this post in case you lose track of it.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          Please google and read the free ebook God’s Plan for All. Have a great day.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          If you’re a genuine seeker you must realize the Church is always under attack.

          You seek the truth and expose the lies. You help Jesus correct the Church. You do not tear her down.

          The Church is the Bride of Christ.

          You keep your garments clean and help the Church.

          Here. Go to healing school:
          https://www.flctampa.org/healing-school/

          And go to deliverance school, too:
          https://delmin.org/

          And remember not to keep bad company. It could corrupt you as well as bad tv, radio and social media, pornography, profanity, etc.

          Bad Company
          https://biblereasons.com/bad-company/

          You be a proper disciple now and stay out of trouble, y’hear.

          Peace Be With You!

        • kaikkonen

          Well, actually, Jesus answered, “If I honour Myself, My honour is nothing: it is My Father that honours Me; of whom ye say, that He is your God: Yet ye have not known Him; but I know Him: and if I should say, I know Him not, I shall be a liar like unto you: but I know Him, and keep His saying. Your father Abraham rejoiced to see My day: and he saw it, and was glad.” Then said the Jews unto Him, “Thou art not yet fifty years old, and hast thou seen Abraham?” Jesus said unto them, “Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I AM.” (John 8:54-58) Earlier, Jesus said unto them, “If God were your Father, ye would love Me: for I proceeded forth and came from God; neither came I of Myself, but He sent Me.” (John 8:42) It is for this reason that Jesus could say, “I AM the Bread of Life!” The King of kings and Lord of lord, Alpha and Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end. (Revelation 1:8) So if we have seen Jesus, we have seen the Father and know Him. (John 14:6-12; Isaiah 9:6; I Timothy 3:16)

  • pud

    Demonstrate that anything you’ve ever written is true. Ever.

    • Susan Jane Elohim

      Demonstrate you aren’t under Satan’s delusion.

      Who would attempt to control God and “deprogram” God’s children but someone under Satan’s influence.

      • pud

        Yeah, you’re right! I’m trying to control your invisible undetectable “god” because demons and devils are all around me! OH MY! You are insane.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          They don’t have to be all around you. All you have to be is weak to sin, unbelieve and been a victim of poor parenting or trauma.

          You act like a narcissist taking your rage out on innocent people.

          Christians are kind and most will not point out you are unbalanced for fear of distressing you or ignorance of what is causing your problem.

          But conscienceless narcissistic bullying should not be tolerated. Disqus should have banned you a long time ago because you suffer from self control issues.

          Christians really don’t care to gain the approval of narcissist bullies y’know.

          Walking on eggshells is not owed you.

          Why you would claim to be helping people while you verbally assault them is self contradictory.

          Go see a shrink.

        • Susan Jane Elohim

          I am going to assume you don’t have control of yourself because you should have left this blog a long time ago.

          I will put you back on block. I’m not talking to people on the Net incapable of getting control of themselves and treating other people with gentleness and respect. That’s what God expects out of His people

          That’s what sane people do.

          • pud

            ” I will put you on block”…LOL..for the 47th time! Yeah, you’re not insane…nooo not you! See you later!

          • Susan Jane Elohim

            I change my mind alot. Einstein said intelligent people can change their minds.

            If you couldn’t change your mind how could you learn or progress?

            Research changes people’s minds, too.

            So start researching and stop letting other people control the evidence if you need it so much and want to set standards on it.

            I’m not jumping through hoops for people who retain control of the goal posts and can switch them whenever they want to.

            So the burden is on you. Get your own evidence. I’m not your puppet.

    • Susan Jane Elohim

      There are Satanists in this world I know someone who worked in a window’s installation company and found one of his customers sacrificing animals in their backyard while the house floor was mired in dung and spooky gothic movies played all day on the television.

      He had to get them to bury the animal on threat of notifying the sheriff before he would install the windows.

      The whole house was a filthy den of iniquity. Literally.

      Imagine the mind(s) in the family that produced it.

  • pud

    Seek qualified mental health counselling asap. You are at least borderline psychotic

    • Susan Jane Elohim

      You’re unqualified to make such allegations on a message board.

      I would stop doing it before someone sues you for slander or defamation of character.

    • kaikkonen

      But Jesus gives those who believe in Him a “sound mind” …

      • pud

        Is that so? Will he give me a pony and a new bike too?

  • Susan Jane Elohim
  • Susan Jane Elohim