The 12 sex-killers in marriage

4. Secrecy.

Secrecy is an enemy of intimacy. Sometimes a lack of connection sexually is a symptom of a deeper trust issue in the marriage. Secrets, lies and distrust of any kind in marriage will create a climate of insecurity and kill the intimacy in your relationship. For more on this, check out my FREE video on “How to build intimacy and trust in marriage.”

5. Poor physical health.

If you face a disease or injury that hinders your sex life, look for other ways to cultivate intimacy. In most cases, the physical limitations aren’t the result of an injury or illness, but they’re the result of neglect and poor habits that can and should be changed. If you’re out of shape, you’re probably not going to have a vibrant sex life. Strive to make physical health (eating right, working out, etc.) a priority in your marriage. It will lead to more happiness and satisfaction both in and out of the bedroom.

6. Mental infidelity.

This one is going to step on some toes, but true intimacy in marriage requires not only physical monogamy, but also mental monogamy. Porn and racy romance novels and rewired our brains to live in a fantasy world that doesn’t involve our spouses. Masturbation also falls into this category and particularly for men who frequently masturbate, their sex life in marriage almost always suffers, because they’re spending their sexual energy apart from their wife. For more on this, read my popular post on “The Truth about Porn” (by clicking here).

#7 will rob your marriage of sex and it will also rob your marriage of peace…