The 12 sex-killers in marriage

7. Resentment.

If there’s a lack of forgiveness in your marriage, it will create a toxic force that will harm your sex life and most every other part of your relationship. If your marriage is suffering from a climate of disrespect, distrust or dysfunction, you need to take action to heal the marriage. The poor sex life is one symptom of a much larger issue. If you’re not sure how to forgive and rebuilt trust in a healing, healthy way, check out my post on “How to rebuild trust” by clicking here.

8. Past physical, emotional or sexual abuse.

Tragically, many people have experienced some form of sexual abuse in their past. Abuse can cause deep and lasting scars. If you’re haunted by the pain of abuse, I encourage you to seek out counseling. Not just for the sake of your sex life and your marriage, but for your peace of mind and emotional healing.

9. Sex as a bargaining chip.

Whenever you take on the mindset that sex can be given as a REWARD or withheld as a PUNISHMENT in your marriage, it cheapens sex and eventually causes resentment. When sex is seen as a transactional relationship (I’ll do this for you if you’ll do something for me), then your treating your spouse like a prostitute.

10. Exhaustion.

For those of you who have young kids at home or crazy work hours, you know how exhaustion can take a toll on the libido. If you’re in an exhausting seasons of life, take a minute to read this Encouragement for the Exhausted.

#11 isn’t always seen as a big deal, but it’s a HUGE deal for one of the spouses. I’ve seen it lead to divorce…