New series starting today. As many of you know I’m in the midst of preparing for a move. One of the things I do daily is go through closets and rooms, sorting possessions into donate, keep, sell and throw away piles. While doing that I am discovering bits and pieces of flotsam from my former life. I found sermon notes from a few bizarre and toxic sermons at my old church, including one involving my old pastor ‘spiritually cleaning’ one of the most haunted houses in Harrisonburg, Va. More on that in another post.

The other things that turn up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and comments from Nancy Campbell’s website.

Each week we’re going to look at a new nugget of marriage advice given by one of Nancy’s sycophants. Discuss.

Do the Things He Likes

I regularly tell my husband how much I RESPECT him. I think this blesses him even more than telling him how much I love him.

Another way to encourage our husbands is to do the things they like! For example, I am from New York, and my husband is from Tennessee. He loves to drink sweet tea. I didn’t even know what it was when I met him! I learned how to make it especially for him, even though I don’t particularly care for it myself.

We also need to be available to our husbands in bed. I do not ever say, “I’m not in the mood.”

Recently I called my husband to ask, ‘Is there another way I can encourage you?’ I was thrilled to hear, ‘Wow, I can’t think of anything else you can do to make me happier or more fulfilled.’ Thank you, Jesus! Then he said, ‘You can scoop the litter box!’

Do you really need to tell him that you respect him? I thought respect was best demonstrated in your daily behavior.

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