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by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin from Botkin Sisters – Should I Keep Preparing For Marriage or is it Time to Start Preparing For a Single Life?
Editor’s note: The Botkin Sisters have completely redesigned and edited their website and relaunched it with a question from a reader of their books who is disappointed that no Mr. Right has emerged to marry her. What do you think the sisters told her? Stop selfishly focusing on herself and get busy doing more stuff to be closer to Jesus is what they took many words to tell her. Telling, isn’t it?
It will be interesting to see what happens if their father allows no courtship and they continue to wait. How will they spin the failure of their theology?
“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I pushed off education, training, work, so nothing would be in the way of my getting married. Now I’m wondering if marriage is ever coming at all. Should I keep waiting and preparing, or should I go back to my previous plan?”
This is not only one girl’s question – this is the heart-cry of many young women today. Whether we swore off higher learning and work to engage in full-time waiting for Prince Charming; chose a college based on which one was most likely to provide an MRS degree; were so distracted by boys that we couldn’t focus on a single productive thing through our whole teens and twenties; or simply let the possibility of marriage coming any day now eat up our mental CPU and distract us from moving full-speed-ahead into anything else, most of us eventually realize this is not jibing with a productive, practical Christian life, and that it’s time to choose between our current track and a different one.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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