Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Everything Women Do is Wrong?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 Everything Women Do is Wrong? March 16, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy – The Jezebel Profile

Editor’s note: Okay, ladies, apparently here’s more rules to being a woman in Pearlworld. Treat your dominating and controlling man like he’s some fragile weakling by fawning over him? Are Christian men so weak as to needing this type of treatment instead of being treated like an adult?

Dominance and control are always masculine. It is a hormonal thing. It is the way God designed male nature. It is important for a woman to understand that she has to be feminine (devoid of dominance and control) in order for her man to view her as his exact counterpart and thus respond to her protectively, with love and gentleness.
God designed us, so he knows what our husbands need in order to function properly in their roles as men who cherish the woman in their life. By nature, men need honor (this includes not questioning their decisions). They need respect (treated as if they are wise). They need reverence (daily admired as a man who is accomplishing great things). They need to be accepted for who and what they are, just like they are. Men need to feel they are in command and doing a good job.
An important part of man is a God-given, natural instinct to bring his wife pleasure. If a woman is to be greatly treasured she will choose to find pleasure in the way the man presents himself and his care. All these traits are basic masculine needs. We were created as a helpmeet to the man we married, fulfilling who and what he is. This is God’s will for us as women. When we as women obey God by responding to the needs of our husband, we are worshipping and honoring God. “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man (1 Cor. 11:9).”

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Allison the Great

    Change everything you are, but men get to be themselves. Don’t ever question them.

  • Finding Home

    Why does she keep contradicting herself???

    “Dominance and control are always masculine, so women should never exhibit those qualities.” If women CAN, then obviously they’re not always masculine.

    “Men need to be accepted for who and what they are, just like they are.” They also need to be treated AS IF they are wise and accomplishing great things, but if they’re not, then why is she saying to accept them just as they are?

  • AFo

    Debi, the reason “secular” women aren’t fawning over every single thing their men do like it’s the greatest thing since sliced bread is that we are with actual men who are secure in their masculinity and identities, not overgrown spoiled toddlers who throw tantrums when things don’t go exactly their way. Our men don’t need to constantly demonstrate their dominance and superiority in every petty little thing in order to feel manly, whereas your husband has such a fragile ego that he had to have a weird little dick-measuring contest with a rooster to prove what a “man” he was.

  • Ruthitchka

    Sounds like my first and only marriage. I am getting a divorce.

  • Nea

    The more she describes her marriage as a universal constant, the more horrific it (and the more screamingly insecure Mikey) sounds.

  • SAO

    Hey, I don’t like people questioning my decisions, I need respect and reverence sounds pretty good. Thus, I think it must be female nature. So, mem, start reverencing your wives.

  • A. Noyd

    By nature, men need honor […] respect (treated as if they are wise) […] reverence (daily admired as a man who is accomplishing great things). […] Men need to feel they are in command and doing a good job.

    Whether or not men actually are worthy of honor, wise, doing great things, in command or doing a good job, their wives have to constantly create the illusion that they are.

    That is controlling. Sure, it’s controlling in a sneaky, manipulative way rather than the up-front, top-down, beat-you-if-you-resist sort of way the CP types consider “masculine,” but it’s still very very controlling.

    And if women must work so hard to cede all this power to men and build them up, who is really more powerful by nature? The one to whom power is ceded (the man) or the one who cedes the power (the woman)?

  • Aloha

    It’s a training manual for domestic abuse.
    She just described all the typical characteristics of an abuser — as if quoting the experts.

  • Aloha

    It surely doesn’t aspire to Christlike humility, does it?
    Nor an ethos of teamwork,
    Nor even acceptance of reality.

  • Nea

    She is quoting an expert at domestic abuse.