Quoting Quiverfull: Do it Happily and Shut Up!?

Quoting Quiverfull: Do it Happily and Shut Up!? April 6, 2017

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies – Put Your Heart Into It!

Editor’s note: Whenever I see advice from Nancy and others ordering you to do it CHEERFULLY I want to visit physical harm to them. Let’s face it, not everything about raising children or keeping a home running is easy, not even if you are a stay at home mother. Is anyone ever smiling and happy when scrubbing a child’s vomit off every surface in the house during a bout of stomach flu sweeping through the family? Or just gutting through the day to day? Nope, emotional denial is unhealthy no matter why you’re doing it. Better to acknowledge you’re not exactly jumping for joy and move on to just do the thing before you.

What’s happening in your home today? Is everything piling on top of you–laundry, dishes, and teaching the children all waiting to be accomplished? Don’t despair, dear mother. Don’t look at everything waiting to be done. Just tackle one job at a time. Priorities first. But do each task with ALL YOUR MIGHT. Not half-heartedly, grumblingly, or lazily.  And teach your children to do their chores with all their might, too. Inspire this attitude in them as they see the way you begin each responsibility.

The Bible always shows us the way.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • JetGirl

    To be fair, I’d cheerfully smack Nancy Campbell, Debi Pearl and Lori Alexander around until my hand ached. And then I would cheerfully ice said hand, and cheerfully take some ibuprofen.

  • AFo

    The “one task at a time part” is admittedly not bad advice, but the idea that you aren’t doing it right if you’re not grinning like the Joker is ridiculous. Something like taking out the trash just needs to get done, period, and realistically should only take a few minutes; me smiling and acting like I’m performing a great work for God isn’t going to change the fact that I’m taking out the trash, nor is it going to make taking out the trash anything but a mundane household chore that all civilized people have to do on a regular basis.

  • Delilah Hart

    Every time I see Nancy Campbell in one of her videos, she always has this goofy, dotty grin plastered on her face. I remember her once talking about the benefits of spanking, and I can’t help but wonder if she has that smile on her face when she’s administering corporal punishment.

  • KarenOfRocks

    I like the idea of doing tasks with all your might, if that means throwing yourself into them and getting them done. It’s the best way to power through them. But I’m definitely not smiling when I’m powering through an unpleasant task. I’m also not a fan of doing a task to excess: how clean/tidy/whatnot does X really have to be? I can’t see spending hours worrying about little stuff that improves my life or my living space by only a small fraction of a percent. And for the life of me I can’t see how any of this relates to any deities.

  • Trellia

    Oh, dear, anyone who wants to cook with all their might should really watch Undyne’s cooking lesson on ‘Undertale’ first. She makes tomato sauce by smashing the vegetables in one blow (and getting it everywhere), stirs pasta noodles with energy spears, and ends by turning up the heat on the stove and setting her house on fire. “Let the stove top symbolize your passion. Let your hopes and dreams turn into burning fire! Ready? Don’t hold anything back!” I don’t think even Nancy cooks with as much might as Undyne.

  • SAO

    Oddly enough, the new agey left has its version, called mindfulness. I’ve read serious articles in the NYT about being mindful when washing dishes.

  • gimpi1

    I’ve found some mindfulness exercises useful in keeping my blood-pressure under control. If I’m totally experiencing washing the dishes, I’m not fuming about the latest news from the Trump administration…

    Mindfulness – an alternative to bitching at the TV.

  • AuntKaylea

    One of my mentors used to tell me, “If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing poorly.” I finally had an occasion to ask him what he meant and why he would say that to me specifically, and he said that perfectionism tends to stand in the way. Sometimes it’s just about doing whatever needs to be done without assessing the quality of the performance. i.e.: If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing either well or poorly. The worthiness of the doing is not in the performance. I found that immensely freeing.

    I get a lot more done when I don’t expend energy trying to make it perfect/or make sure I’m cheerful or whole-hearted about the task. I will probably always be a little grumbly when I’m doing something I don’t enjoy; but after it’s done and I don’t have to do it anymore, I will authentically be glad. But then again, I tend to perceive pretend cheerfulness as deception.

  • JetGirl

    She’d have that same smile when setting a witch on fire. Or waterboarding someone.

  • Caitlin Burrows

    I’ve seen episodes of World’s Strictest Parents where they had the troubled kids do chores and tell them to smile while they did it. That’s a bit much. Granted, I wouldn’t want them yelling, “This SUCKS!” over and over again, but as long as it’s done and done thoroughly, that’s enough. The smiling while doing it was a bit much.

  • There’s a poem by a Lithuanian poet (forgot whom, because I’ve only ever had it cited to me, by someone who actually speaks the language) – anyway, it describes a woman puting on make-up and a hat for taking out the trash.
    But that woman in the poem, I think, is doing it for herself and her sense of dignity (and maybe fun), which is very different from this.