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One of the sadder questions at the entire website this young woman has discovered after marriage that she has no chemistry in the bedroom with her husband.
Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.
No spark, no attraction, one very sad help meet
I am not sexually attracted to my husband! I married him for his heart and because he is a great christian guy. By me trying to be pure i never let my mind wonder about intimacy after marriage. It has been 4 years and im not attracted to my husband at all! I usually ‘pretend’ its great and make it good enough for him but inside im not happy and very sad.
Do i have to suffer like this for the rest of my life? Im seriously considering divorce.
All the answers she got were the same: God hates divorce so you cannot divorce him, you married for better or worse and most suggested she reread “Created To Be A Help Meet” Boggles my mind that no one suggested being honest with the husband and discussing the problem or recommended they might seek professional help. It’s all suck it up buttercup.
What would you advise?
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