Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Good is Good Enough For a Potential Man?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Good is Good Enough For a Potential Man? August 23, 2017
AnsweringYoung lady complains that all the men she knows are too sinful to consider. She’s wanting to know how much compromise of your standards do you have to engage in to find a husband.  Where is this line?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

I’ve been looking around for Christian young men for some time and I noticed that most of them did things I did not like: They played (too much) video games or they kept using profane language or they kept switching girlfriends or they were very flirty with everyone or seemed to be lazy in general or didn’t want (many) kids and stuff like that. About a year ago I found a guy at a Christian camp in Austria who does seem like the kind of guy I was looking for – even when I checked his facebook profile it all seemed OK but under the movies he watched he had two movies – twilight and Lord of the Rings – that I would not want to watch and I don’t think these are OK movies – now I don’t know if that is a serious problem I should consider or if I should just accept it since there is probably no one out there who is absolutely perfect in what he does – so how much should I compromise when looking for a husband?
This is what happens when you’ve built up a perfect fantasy man and no one in real life can hope to measure up. No one answered this young lady. What would you say?

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