Several days ago on one of the many Lori Alexanderβs followers links I stumbled across this particular blog β Lazy Mother Musings and this piece where sheβs adding to the advice of a pastor on the communications in marriages going through bumpy patches. The pastorβs advice is mostly sensible, the Lazy Motherβs version? Hmm, not so much. Read on.
Kind of laughing that any of Loriβs supporters would call themselves βLazy Motherβ considering the hoopla Lori has made about staying entirely busy.
Her replies to the pastorβs advice are in italics.
Whoa, no! It does not matter if what sheβs feeling is correct or wrong. That is not the issue here.Β You are entitled to your own feelings no matter what the rude ugly and unChristlike female culture enforcers might say. Hinting that she might just need sex is just so wrong. Sex is usually the last thing on a womanβs mind when she has to have this type of conversation with her husband.
Her translation is just what an immature person might say. Admitting there is something wrong, asking for help and offering a possible solution is a thing that adults do. Mature adults. Anyone that believes all other women are this petty and manipulative is marking themselves as abusive and unsafe to be around.
So let me get this straight. She believes that most problems in marriage are simply wives being unhappy and going to a marriage counselor to solve that problem is wrong? Again, it takes an mature adult to admit thereβs a problem and seek a solution. An unhappy wife, justifiable or not, will simply leave one day or explode if an ongoing problem that could be easily dealt with earlier is unresolved.
Communication in marriage is vital. There will be times when miscommunication happens. There will be happy and unhappy times in all marriages, which must be dealt with. Itβs much better to go to a uninvolved third party, like a marriage counselor, that to grit your teeth and pretend to be HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY! That just a swift recipe for disaster, or at least makes you unhappy enough to throw verbal mud at every other woman in the world.
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