Women Can Divorce Over Money, But Men Cannot?

Women Can Divorce Over Money, But Men Cannot? April 14, 2019
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Occasionally Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles will come up with an idea so odd it gives one pause. Remember all the times when Larry has said that women cannot divorce over infidelity, or lack of sex? His ideas of what does and does not constitute a divorce-able offense are pretty wacky.

There are exactly the kinds of theological and mental Twister you might be caught up in by attempting to make every single word of the Bible be literal. The Bible, literally, contradicts itself in various places, it’s filled with advice that does not translate well to our time, and seems more like something George R.R. Martin might have been working on before “Game of Thrones” What with the incest, talking beasts, killings and other rare descriptions.

This is why some denominations believe in the spirit of the law instead of the letter of that same law.

According to Larry if your man is not working, refusing to work or taking your hard earned cash to buy drugs, alcohol and other illegal or possibly frivolous things you may divorce him.

No household must perpetually suffer financial ruin because of a spouse who abuses the family finances.  But how this is dealt with is different depending on whether it is the husband or wife. As I stated in my previous article on this subject of abuse the Exodus 21:10-11 principle applies to a wife whose husband fails to provide (i.e. brings the family to financial ruin) either because of his laziness or some type of addiction (drugs or gambling).  So, no, she does not have to stay and take this kind of abuse but rather she can be free of him in divorce.

Let me get this straight. Larry does not allow women to divorce their husbands for reasons of emotional abuse, physical abuse and infidelity. But for addictions, no money, and laziness he allows it? Color me surprised.

For once it does not give the man the upper hand. According to Larry no divorce if your wife spends all your money. No mention of refusal to work or addictions.

Now does the husband have the right to divorce his wife because of her financial abuse  such as overspending which may cause financial ruin for the family? No, he does not have the right to divorce her, but based on upon Christ’s example with his wife the church in Revelation 3:19 he does have the right to discipline her.  And that means he gets a new bank account without her name on it and locks her out of the finances completely.  Even if that means he has to do the family grocery shopping and clothing shopping.

In other words the husband gets to exact financial abuse upon his wife for whatever he deems her foolishness in handling money and there’s nothing she can do about it.  Other posts by Larry seem to indicate that the carrot and stick approach to money is one of the best ways he likes to control his wife.

Too bad for him most women these days have outside income and don’t have to rely on whatever paltry crumbs he deigns to grant her.

Taking Larry’s advice seriously will only lead you into more misery. Look at Larry, everything he’s said about his two marriages and his wives seems awful, not something to emulate at all.

It’s a new world, Larry, and most women do not like to be abused at all. This is pure financial abuse. There are better ways to approach a spouse’s financial misdeeds than abuse. Again, I have to state and point out the obvious, why don’t you talk about it? Go to financial counseling? Marriage counseling?


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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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