Don’t Expect Him To Help, and Don’t Nag Him

Don’t Expect Him To Help, and Don’t Nag Him June 2, 2019

This is a piece from an old one of those Pearl letters to Debi and Michael Pearl at No Greater Joy. It involves a mother who is frustrated that her husband seems to take zero interest in hands on parenting. She complains that her mother in law and sisters in law have the exact same problem.

Both Debi and Mike answered pretty much the exact same thing, that she should stop expecting help. But Mike had this bit of inanity to add:

Children may suffer a lack in their education and personality when they don’t have more involvement from their father, but they will not be rebellious, disrespectful of authority, and dishonoring of their mother unless mother is bothered by her husband’s lack of participation. Given the father’s lack of interest, the kids may have an incomplete education, but don’t let your attitude leave them with an incomplete soul.

So what Michael is saying here is that having a lack in either education or personality is a-okay as long as momma honors daddy?

No, no NO! The way mothers treat fathers do not create rebellion in children, no matter what he might say. I do notice that Mike is not going for his favorite solution to keeping rebellion away, the quarter inch thick piece of plastic plumbing line applied to the hind parts of a child.

Oh, that and the Pearls telling this woman and she has to learn her place. Learn her place? This isn’t some Victorian novel with the new downstairs maid finding out she can only eat in the scullery. Her place is anywhere she wishes to be.

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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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