4 Bad Habits That Will Make You Justify Cheating

Cheating is just wrong. Most people would agree. If we all know it’s wrong, how can cheating be justified?

Why do so many people cheat?

Cheating doesn’t just happen. You make up your mind to cheat long before you do it. After you make the decision, you look for reason to justify it.

He cheated on me. He spends too much time on his phone. He works too much. I’m lonely.

Whatever the reason, cheating’s never okay.

You can justify anything you want. When you’re running through the rationale in your head, some habits make it easier to come up with justification.

Here are four habits that make you ripe for justifying cheating.

1. Threatening divorce
You may think threatening divorce sounds tough, but it eats at the foundation of your relationship. If you’re always thinking of a way out, it may be easy to justify infidelity. Threatening divorce also affects intimacy. It calls commitment into question. You may find yourself emotionally detaching from your husband. Look for reasons to stay in your marriage instead of looking for reasons to get out.

2. Gossiping about your husband

Complaining about your husband to others is gossip. When you tell someone the negative attributes of your husband, you undermine your marriage. You might feel better when you’re finished, but without realizing it, you may be doing long-term damage to your marriage. Complaining about your husband will make you vulnerable to an affair. When you’re constantly pointing out what’s wrong with your husband, it’s natural to notice what’s right about someone else. You may start to see yourself as a victim, which makes it easier to justify cheating. Be your husband’s biggest encourager not his biggest critic.

3. Hanging with friends who don’t like your husband

When you spend time with people who don’t like your husband, they’re not going to support your marriage or your fidelity. They may even encourage you to compromise your character. They may help you find excuses or justification for doing so. Hang out with people who respect marriage and want strong marriages themselves. If your friends don’t like your husband, get new friends.

4. Keeping secrets
Social media makes it easy to lead a secret life and hide things from your husband. Keeping secrets can do long-term damage to your relationship. A secretive mindset will open you up to adultery. Keeping secrets makes it easier to justify doing the wrong thing and may lead to romanticizing about a life you don’t have. If you want  to protect yourself from adultery, never keep secrets from your husband. Be an open book. Share your thoughts, which will build intimacy.

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