Why Are Catholics Obsessed With Sex?

It’s like this: We all come into life with a gaping wound called the Love Wound. We feel we are not loved enough and we don’t know properly how to love others. Through life we attempt love and end up being more deeply wounded. We wound and we are wounded further. We mess up in love. We make mistake. We hurt and get hurt.

Furthermore, learning to love others is also about learning to love ourselves fully. We mess up there too, and our sexual activity is all tied up with our attempts to find true and lasting love. So we sleep around. We look at porn. We get involved with nasty stuff. We dabble about in sex because we are trying to learn how to love, and we learn that all that sex has not helped us to really learn how to love, but it has hindered our attempts to find true love. As a result we are even more deeply wounded and pull back into our shell–into our own lovelorn life–our own eternal loneliness.

The Catholic Church–building on two thousand years of wisdom and experience says tenderly, “This love business is difficult. It is a great adventure. You require a map and a guide, and mentor. It is a lifelong quest. Learning to really love is not an easy or a quick accomplishment. This is why you need to make just one commitment to just one person for the whole of you life together so that one man and one woman can embark on this great adventure together, and maybe, just maybe you will make it to the end and after a lifetime of self sacrifice, cross the finish line and be able to hold up your heads and your hands and say, “We did it! I think we did it! We learned how to love!”

Why is this so important? Because this is what it means to be fully human. To learn how to love another person is the great adventure and this is what we are here for

Why is this so important, because to learn how to love is also to learn how to penetrate the heart of God himself who is love. I’m always moved by the final lines in Les Miserables “To love another person is to see the face of God.”

This is why Catholics are “obsessed with sex” because what we do with our private parts  is connected with learning how to love in creativity, faithfulness, purity and truth. This is a sacred, precious and beautiful human journey. It is a treasure that is eternal and a beauty that lasts forever.

Cheap sex treats it like trash. Cheap and trashy sex is to true love what a plastic cup is to an ancient Chinese vase.

Cheap sex therefore treats people like the plastic cup….something to be used, then crushed and thrown away.

Are Catholics obsessed with sex?

It’s more accurate to say we’re obsessed with true love, true life and finding the eternal beauty of God himself.

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