October 12, 2019

There are many theories about how we can improve our marriage and ignite passion. One of the most popular was developed by psychologist Gary Chapman, the author of  The Five Languages of Love. According to author Gary Chapman, couples will communicate more effectively if they gain insight into their primary way of desiring expressions of love. They can also request that their partner to demonstrate love in this fashion. He explains that deep inside every hurting couple exists an invisible “emotional… Read more

October 4, 2019

The way you feel about yourself today is directly related to how you felt about yourself as a child. If you have a limited ability to see yourself as loveable and valued, you must build a positive sense of self on your own. Although your childhood experiences may have helped create the woman you have become, it is up to you to carve out a new story for your life. Take the time to examine how your relationships have played… Read more

September 28, 2019

Recently, I had a conversation with a client about whether or not soulmates are real. Our discussion was lively and we touched on some interesting topics such as “Is the idea of a soulmate healthy?” and “Do we have just one soulmate in a lifetime?” While my client and I agreed that there are some definite problems with harboring the idea of a soulmate (and limiting yourself to just one), there appear to be mixed messages in the media on… Read more

September 20, 2019

Forgiving is one way of letting go of your old baggage so that you can heal and move on with your life. It’s about giving yourself, your children, and perhaps even your partner or ex-partner, the kind of future you and they deserve – unhampered by hurt and recycled anger. It’s about choosing to live a life wherein others don’t have power over you and you’re not dominated by unresolved anger, bitterness, and resentment. But often forgiving your ex-spouse or… Read more

September 14, 2019

Couples who have daily rituals of connection and physical contact have a stronger bond. Make your relationship a priority now and you will reap the benefits of a long-lasting union that will increase your mental, physical, and psychological well-being. That doesn’t mean you have to ignore your children or work. However, daily rituals of connection can give your relationship a boost and it will pay off big time!   Here are five rituals to help your relationship flourish: Turn off… Read more

September 6, 2019

During a recent presentation at National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education Summit, Dr. Scott Stanley presented the latest statistical research on marriage, shedding light on the changing dynamics of divorce in younger generations. While we all know the hard to forget fact that 50% of all marriages end in divorce — and while those numbers justifiably cause concern among couples — it is also true that young couples are increasingly bucking that trend. Indeed, half of all marriages between… Read more

August 28, 2019

If you think that your new romance or second marriage will be nothing like your former one, think again. A new research study from the University of Alberta showed that over time, couples in new relationships had the same dynamics as past broken ones, after the glow of the honeymoon phase had faded. This eight-year study of 554 people in Germany showed that some relationship dynamics change when we find new partners, but couples are likely to recreate many of… Read more

August 22, 2019

Many couples are stuck in an unfortunate vicious cycle where one partner become more distant as their partner steps up the intensity of his or her pursuits. Unfortunately, if this pattern isn’t reversed it can damage a relationship beyond repair and lead to breakup or divorce. Kyla, 34, put it like this: “The more I ask Conner to hug me and be more affectionate, the more he pulls away and goes into his shell. I love him and we’ve talked… Read more

August 16, 2019

But does this mean that the institution of marriage hasn’t become completely obsolete yet? Since I believe in marriage, I see the declining divorce rate as positive and believe it’s a good sign that many couples are dating for longer periods and waiting until they get older to marry. For instance, Marisa and Jack met in college at the age of 22 but waited until they had both settled into a job before they got engaged and married in their… Read more

August 9, 2019

Spending periods of quality time doing shared activities alone with your spouse each week is the most important way to deepen and strengthen physical and emotional intimacy.  In fact, the amount of time a couple spends alone and with each other, talking, or sharing activities together is a key factor in predicting their overall marital happiness, according to psychologist Eli J. Finkel. In the All-Or-Nothing Marriage, Finkel explains that there has been a 40% decline in the last three decades… Read more

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