Long-Distance Love and The COVID-19 Pandemic

Last updated on: February 21, 2021 at 11:32 am By Terry Gaspard

In a recently-released article by Anggun Bawinur for The Good Men Project’s website, the writer unpacks the challenges of a long-distance relationship amidst the pandemic. Drawing on his perspective of being in an especially long, long-distance partnership — in his case, a romance in which one partner is in Canada and the other is in Southeast Asia — Bawinur shares the very relatable feelings of isolation, uncertainty, and the ever-changing dynamics of COVID-19 rates. He also discusses relevant issues in... Read more

7 Ways to Help Your Teenager Cope With Your Divorce

Last updated on: February 13, 2021 at 10:17 pm By Terry Gaspard

Dear Terry, I was divorced three years ago and my question is “when my children will recover and get used to living in two homes?” I’m a forty-two year old teacher who was married for fifteen years and I have three children ages 10, 12, and 15. My marriage had been very bad for a long time and we argued often. I think we were all relieved for the first few months after my ex-husband moved out but then my... Read more

5 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Marriage and Find Lasting Love

Last updated on: February 7, 2021 at 10:12 am By Terry Gaspard

For better or worse, most couples follow similar patterns that they saw their parents’ model for them. However, with self-awareness of our core beliefs and behaviors, we can begin to make intentions about having a different kind of marriage. This comes down to how we are taught to view ourselves as capable or inadequate of having a successful marriage, and whether we are deserving of love or unworthy. Most experts believe that the first step in getting out from the... Read more

5 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Marriage and Finding Lasting Love

Last updated on: February 7, 2021 at 9:48 am By Terry Gaspard

How to Deal with Feelings of Loneliness During COVID-19

Last updated on: February 2, 2021 at 7:23 am By Terry Gaspard

Perhaps one of the most challenging aspects of dealing with the Coronavirus during the past year is an increase of feelings of isolation or loneliness. In the seemingly never-ending age of COVID-19, many people are experiencing an all-new and ever-changing set of challenges. Beyond obvious health concerns, our happiness and well-being are being impacted by media reports of an unrelenting pandemic. According to psychotherapist April Snow, “Human connection is vital not just for survival, but plays a big part in... Read more

6 Ways to Enhance Sexual Intimacy and Love in Your Relationship

Last updated on: January 25, 2021 at 11:27 am By Terry Gaspard

During my time as a couples therapist, the most common complaint I’ve heard is about a decrease in sexual intimacy and differences in the degree of sexual desire between partners. This lack of passion in an intimate relationship can cause partners to believe that they have fallen out of love. For instance, Karen, 48, spoke to me about her disappointment and lack of sexual desire with her husband, Todd, 49, over the last several years of their ten year marriage.... Read more

6 Ways To Survive a Breakup and Move On

Last updated on: January 17, 2021 at 10:49 pm By Terry Gaspard

While it’s normal to go through a period of self-reflection when your relationship ends, it’s crucial that you keep things in perspective and focus on healing. Losing a partner, even if you made a decision to end the relationship, can disrupt your life on so many levels because your ex was undoubtedly a part of your daily existence. As a result, breakups can weaken your ability to sleep, eat well, and function at work and in social spheres. To complicate... Read more

Expert Tips On Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Last updated on: January 10, 2021 at 6:28 pm By Terry Gaspard

Rebuilding a relationship in the wake of infidelity — whether romantic, emotional or financial — is one of the biggest hurdles in maintaining a marriage. Dishonesty breeds distrust, and in a recent article for The Good Men Project, writer Matthew Fray recounts his first-hand experience of repairing a relationship after a pattern of lies and betrayals had taken their toll. In his honest and revealing article, Fray admits his faults and assumes responsibility for a relationship that ended up on... Read more

10 New Year’s Resolutions That Are Keepers in 2021

Last updated on: January 3, 2021 at 12:30 pm By Terry Gaspard

It’s no surprise that most people abandon New Year’s resolutions fairly soon after making them. In fact, studies show that there are many obstacles that prevent people from keeping them such as being unrealistic or making resolutions that are too vague. If you find yourself recycling a goal from last year, consider crafting a new one. For instance, Karen, 42, found herself making the same goal every year of losing ten pounds but never achieved it. But when she combined... Read more

10 Secrets to a Happy Second Marriage

Last updated on: December 27, 2020 at 5:20 pm By Terry Gaspard

Expect plenty of storms in remarried life. The complications of a newly created stepfamily or blended family can be daunting and it can take years for the family “norms” to take hold. Conflict and rivalries between family members – especially stepparents and stepchildren – can make day to day life stressful and chaotic at times. Adopting realistic expectations will help you navigate these challenges. Most experts agree that it can take a remarried family up to four years to reach... Read more