July 10, 2020

  Her name is Nikki Addimando and she is a victim.  For years she braved the abusive hands of her children’s father and now she braves the abusive hands of our “justice” system. I can’t tell you how disturbing this pattern is: Abusive men controlling the women in their lives, making them fear for their safety or the safety of their children, threatening loved ones. Classic abuser behavior. These threats seem like promises, and sometimes they are. Just a basic… Read more

June 23, 2020

I sit tonight, eyelids drooping, as I ponder the week this has been. For those who have reached out to me in love and in concern, here is an accounting of my life as I’ve lived, and died. My life as a being reborn. A very important collaboration with a fellow writer, one aimed at (hopefully) beginning to heal the weight of pain between the distrust and hate between the countless factions of Catholics—this holds the strongest pull on my… Read more

June 21, 2020

Image belongs to Abby Weiss. She sent it to me this week in celebration of my confirmation patron, Saint Joan of Arc. I was wrestling tonight with the radically transfigured experience of reality, of my existence, of place in this world, one of my dearest friends messaged me. She had seen what I am facing right now, and she asked me if I was safe. I wish to share with you the full, raw honesty of my response. The past… Read more

June 19, 2020

Billy Joel and Glass Houses Glass Houses Most of us, at some point in life, are confronted with ugly truths. This may be anything from learning your family enshrines xenophobic hate speech to maybe being unabashedly bitchy. Then some things hit us hard in our core beliefs. I have always believed the races to be equal. My ugly truth is my white silence. We all sit in houses of prejudice. This house is built on a foundation of privilege and… Read more

June 17, 2020

***Important Update On This Conflict*** Dave Armstrong of Patheos Catholic read this response tonight and responded in the very last way that I expected. It seems, and I hope it genuinely is, from a place of deep sincerity and self-awareness on his part. He deleted his original invasive, inappropriate comment (copied below), and apologized to me both in the comments of this post, the previous one, and on Facebook for asking it. His apology on my coming out post is… Read more

June 16, 2020

Librarian Witch Bitch Aesthetic   This week I formally came out on Facebook and through private messages to my friends, family, and online community as Marie Avers: I am a cisgender (she/her), demiromantic, and bisexual femme writer who wrestles continually with with mental illness, abused-based trauma, and the deep pain and grief of true, thorough healing. I am an anarcho-socialist who believes in radical mutual aid. I feel like I am physically and spiritually a 94-year-old woman. And I am… Read more

June 2, 2020

Today is the celebration of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of the Church, in the General Roman Calendar. What does it mean to recognize Mary under this title? I think so often when we visualize the Church, we imagine a building such as St. Peter’s Basilica in Rome. We may even visualize our own parish, whether it be a large inner community or a tiny country hovel. But I challenge all of us (this includes myself) to picture a person…. Read more

May 10, 2020

This week, Catholic mommy blogger Kendra from Catholic All Year wrote an article lamenting that martyrs of old willingly died to protect the Eucharist, while modern Catholics are too scared to attend Mass in the face of a deadly pandemic.  Friends of mine and I were disturbed by this article, and a few of us wanted to share our own thoughts on the matter.    I’m desperate for the sacraments, so I empathize with the author.  I don’t understand her… Read more

February 3, 2020

I worked last night, so I missed the Superbowl. Also, I do not particularly enjoy football, so the “Big Game” was barely on my radar—except that I knew Jennifer Lopez and Shakira would be performing the halftime show, and I had heard that they wanted to use it as a platform to speak up about immigrant, refugee, and minority rights in our country. So I woke up and googled it. I watched their performance and held back tears as I… Read more

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