takeaways Dr. Bauman's book addresses sexism and abuse in the church. He conducted extensive research with over 2,800 women. The church has a history of silencing women's experiences. Authenticity is crucial in addressing personal and communal trauma. Patriarchy fosters a culture of secrecy and shame. Weaponizing forgiveness can harm victims of abuse. Theological beliefs should evolve and shed outdated ideas. Men's insecurities often lead to abusive behaviors. The church must confront its complicity in abuse. Healing requires facing pain rather than bypassing it. Forgiveness can sometimes be weaponized in abusive situations. Emotional and spiritual abuse often goes unrecognized. Healthy shame encourages accountability, while toxic shame dehumanizes. Entitlement can stem from suffering, leading to harmful behaviors. Trusting our bodies is essential for spiritual health. Men must actively work against sexism and objectification. Systems in the church often prioritize power over people. Jesus's actions challenged the patriarchal norms of his time. Small community models can foster deeper connections and healing. Personal growth requires confronting our own shadows and ego. Chapters 00:00Introduction to Dr. Andrew Bauman and His Work 02:53The Need for a Safe Church 05:51Personal Journey and Background 09:08Deconstructing Faith and Theology 11:52The Impact of Evangelical Upbringing 14:47The Secret Life and Authenticity 18:02Patriarchy and Its Consequences 20:56Weaponizing Forgiveness 24:01Confronting Abuse in the Church 32:26The Impact of Forgiveness in Abuse Dynamics 34:49Understanding Shame: Healthy vs. Toxic 36:31Navigating Suffering and Entitlement 37:48Reclaiming the Body: Trusting Our Intuition 39:29The Role of Authority in Spiritual Development 41:10Listening to the Marginalized: A Christian Imperative 43:14Jesus and the Rejection of Patriarchy 45:09Men's Responsibility in Addressing Objectification 48:10Confronting Sexism in Church Culture 50:09The Challenge of Changing Systems 52:07The Value of Small Community Models 54:20Ego, Affirmation, and Personal Growth 57:58Practices for Centering Faith and Self Links: Book: https://bakerpublishinggroup.com/books/safe-church/419431 Workshops: www.Christiancc.org Blog: www.AndrewJBauman.com Sponsors Quoir Square 2 Class: https://www.bk2sq1.com/square-2-next-steps-into-reconstruction (Promo code: Liminal for 10% off) Kineo Center: https://www.thekineocenter.com/cohort (mention "Liminal" in Application for $100 off) Monk Manual: https://monkmanual.com/LIMINAL (10% off all merchandise) Connect Find us on the web: https://liminalliving.simplecast.com/ Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/liminalliving Follow us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCseqDsKpQv2r7AbFfrWF0ow Follow us on Patheos: patheos.com/editorial/podcasts/liminal-living