God and The Avengers

Like much of America and the world, I shelled out $10 to see “The Avengers” this weekend and I wasn’t disappointed.

Writer/Director Joss Whedon managed to take what could have been an unwieldy superhero story with a lot of characters – and turn it into an entertaining, funny, action-packed film with well-integrated themes about courage and sacrifice. Unexpectedly, the movie even included a couple of moderately religious moments, both of them inspired by the primary villain, Loki, who considers himself a god (though he’s really only an egomaniacal, megalomaniacal powerful alien windbag with self-confidence issues and a helmet with horns.)

In one scene, Captain America is told that Loki and his superhero brother Thor are “like gods.” Cap’s response: “There’s only one God, ma’am, and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t dress like that.” It was a funny quip and true to character for Captain America who represents traditional values and beliefs. The script even appears to acknowledge that our modern society could use some of those “old-fashioned” ideals and values again.

The second incident has a little more depth. It occurs when Loki attacks a large group of people in Germany and forces them to kneel before him. Like many villains, Loki gets a high from subjugating people who are physically weaker than him. Pompously, he says to the crowd, “Is not this simpler? Is this not your natural state? It’s the unspoken truth of humanity: that you crave subjugation. The bright lure of freedom diminishes your life’s freedom in a mad scramble for power, for identity. You were made to be ruled. In the end, you will always kneel.”

Following this line, an elderly man in the crowd stands up bravely and says, “Not to men like you.”

Loki responds, “There are no men like me.”

The old man concludes,”There are always men like you.”

The fact that this line is spoken in Germany, harkening back to World War II’s mad tyrant, has obvious political undertones. But looking at it from a Christian viewpoint, it has religious implications as well. Kneeling before God is a traditional aspect of Christianity. Jesus humbled Himself before the Father and His followers are called to do the same. It’s an act of humility we’re supposed to willingly take on out of love as opposed to a forced act of subjugation. In Christian tradition, therefore, submitting to God’s will instead of our own is seen as a good and necessary choice that helps us fulfill our natures and our destinies. In that context, kneeling is a good thing, a freeing thing. It’s led well-known people like Mother Teresa to serve the poor all her life – and lesser-known people like Katie Davis to do the same. It doesn’t mean we check our brains at the door. Just the opposite, in fact, because discerning God’s will from the will of wolves in sheep’s clothing can take a lot of brain power.

As I was watching the scene in the movie unfold and the old man first stood up, I expected a comment from him about how human beings are never meant to follow, that we’re autonomous individuals who shouldn’t submit our own will to anyone else. That’s why the exchange surprised me. It didn’t say that at all. It just made a comment on the type of person – and perhaps unintentionally, the type of God – we’re supposed to follow.

One of the reasons I was surprised at this scene was that Joss Whedon has admitted he’s an atheist who tends to see God as a “sky bully.” This is a common misperception among atheists that springs from a superficial reading of the Bible and a narrow understanding of religious faith. Even the prolific defender of the faith, Father Robert Barron, has acknowledged that if God were actually the type of deity the new atheists believe He is, he wouldn’t want to believe in God either.

Yet here is Whedon – staying true to his character instead of his own ideology – giving a shout out to God through Captain America. Then he goes on to acknowledge there are times in life when it’s appropriate to kneel and be a follower. He probably didn’t intend to make any theological implications here because, in the film, The Avengers come to trust Captain America to be their leader and therefore follow his orders. But the scene between Loki and the elderly man should hold different implications for believing Christians.

In some of his other work like “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” and “Firefly,” Whedon has exhibited Catholic sensibilities when it comes to portraying suffering, sacrifice and even grace (though I doubt he’d call it grace). This now carries over to “The Avengers” which includes some thoughtful moments that should resonate with religious viewers.

What Down Syndrome Taught One Mother About Brokenness, Beauty and Perfection

Christopher Closeup podcast – Guest: Amy Julia Becker

After her daughter, Penny, was unexpectedly born with Down syndrome, Amy Julia Becker experienced an emotional and spiritual crisis. As someone who was deeply devoted to her Christian faith and who even attended Princeton Theological Seminary, she naively thought things like this weren’t supposed to happen to her. But as Amy Julia grew to love and bond with her daughter, she got an education in love, God’s grace, and strength-in-weakness that no university class could have given her.

A few weeks ago, I reviewed Amy Julia’s book, “A Good and Perfect Gift: Faith, Expectations, and a Little Girl Named Penny” which we are pleased to honor with a Christopher Award. I also interviewed Amy Julia for our Christopher Closeup podcast and radio show. Below are some excerpts:

TR: In today’s world, what does a diagnosis of Down syndrome mean for a child’s health and prospects for life? Is it different for everyone or are there common denominators?

Amy Julia Becker: The common denominators would be that life expectancy has increased dramatically. In the course of my lifetime, the life expectancy of a child with Down syndrome has gone from 25 to 60. Babies born now are expected to live an average of 60 years, and there are some who are living into their 80s. That’s been largely due to advances having to do with heart surgery. About 50% of babies with Down syndrome are born with a heart defect, and about half of those heart defects will require open heart surgery which used to be incredibly risky and now is relatively routine – though it’s still harrowing for the parents.

The other common denominators involve low muscle tone, which just means that motor skills are going to come at a slower pace – and some coordination issues might be involved. Cognitive delays continue to be a factor, although there’s a really big spectrum as far as what that looks like on a practical level from kid to kid.

TR: One of the biggest strengths of the book for me is your honesty about the moments when you admit feeling grief and disappointment that Penny had Down syndrome. Here’s a moment when every parent should feel unbridled joy and yet these contradictory emotions come in. Was it a struggle for you to be honest with yourself about how you felt, then ultimately to share that honesty with the world?

Amy Julia Becker: I think the struggle was more in that first part – in the internal conflict I felt which came on two levels. One, there was truly a dissonance between seeing this beautiful baby who I instinctively loved, and who I had loved as I’d gotten to know her in the womb. In my brain, there was this fear that I would cease to love her – that Down syndrome would take over my child and I would no longer be the parent I wanted to be. I also had to confront my own fears about having a child with mental retardation and a disability. But when I finally wrestled through those emotions, I felt it was really important to tell other people about that. I wanted to give other women who were experiencing that same dissonance with their children permission to feel grief, anger and sorrow in the midst of the joy and love they were feeling. I wanted to offer some encouragement that it wouldn’t always feel that way.

TR: In the book, you refer to the fact that you’re a lifelong perfectionist…Looking at it from a religious angle – because you do deal with the Christian aspect of looking at Penny’s Down syndrome – in order to accept a Savior into our lives, we have to admit that we’re broken and imperfect in some way. In retrospect, would you consider your perfectionism a stumbling block to a deeper relationship with God all those years?

Amy Julia Becker: Yes! And it’s ironic because there’s a sense that what God wants for us through Christ is our perfection. But it’s such a different perfection than the perfection that the world offers us. It’s such a different perfection than my sense of essentially wanting to be able to do everything by myself. I had this perfection in mind that was about autonomous individuality as opposed to becoming a part of the Body of Christ which would mean that I would not only need God and therefore be unfulfilled and imperfect on my own – but also that I’d need other people. I’d need other believers to help me grow into the person that God wanted me to be, which would continue to be a person who had needs and wants and limitations. Having a daughter with a disability is what God used to help me see how wrong I was in the way I was striving for perfection.

TR: There are a lot of touching moments in the book, one of which is when your husband, Peter, comes to see Penny as an answer to his prayer that his heart would become more open. How has embracing what you first saw as a cross become a blessing for you and Peter individually and as a couple?

Amy Julia Becker: There are so many ways. One of the things that comes to mind is that I at first thought having a child with disabilities was going to narrow my experience of the world. I thought all I was ever going to think about was disability and Down syndrome. Instead, what Penny has done for us – and what God has done through her – is to help us see the value of every human life…and recognizing the image of God is imprinted in all of us. So what is it I have to receive from other people – and what is it I have to give? I really think I’ve had a transformation in my understanding of human relationships. Going back to that comment in the book about Peter’s heart becoming more open, it really has been opened not only to people with disabilities, but to the whole swath of humanity in all of our brokenness and all of our beauty.

TR: We’re going through these debates in the country and the world about what constitutes living a valuable life. Do you see a lot of the insights you’re applying to your specific situation also applying to the larger situation in the country and the world?

Amy Julia Becker: I do. I think there are a lot of parallels to how we understand human life, particularly at the beginning of life and the end of life and suffering in the midst of life. When we use a comment that someone’s in a vegetative state, I think any time you’re comparing a person to a product or a vegetable, you’re in trouble. I think it’s important to think about what I would call a ministry of presence. That’s not our experience with Penny. She happens to be a child who is talking and walking and, in many ways, like other six-year-olds. But you can take disabilities to the most profound end of the spectrum or think about people who are at the end stages of life and sometimes wonder – what is the value of this life? I think there are answers to be had there, but they’re only for those who have eyes to see, who are willing to receive the gift that God has through the weak, the vulnerable and the needy among us. It really goes back to what Jesus said about who we are to value and how we are to see the people who often go unseen. So I think it has implications for anyone we are tempted to dehumanize: people in prison, people who are homeless, the people who tend to get forgotten – again, beginning of life and end of life being examples of that.

To hear my complete interview with Amy Julia Becker, click:
Christopher Closeup podcast – Guest: Amy Julia Becker

Back to Mayberry and a Life of Purpose

Sometimes a TV show can remind you of life’s little truths. That’s what happened to me while watching an episode of “The Andy Griffith Show” about what happens when Andy hires Malcolm, a visitor to Mayberry, to help Aunt Bea with her chores around the house. Aunt Bea, for those who don’t know, is like a lovable grandmother who cooks, bakes, cleans and generally cares for her loved ones. Andy hires help because he thinks she’s overworked and deserves to be a woman of leisure.

As Aunt Bea’s life of leisure progresses, we witness her becoming less joyful and ultimately losing her spark for life. While Andy meant for her to relax more, Aunt Bea finds she has lost her purpose. She lives to care for her loved ones and didn’t mind all the seeming impositions. There’s a scene where Andy’s son Opie (Ron Howard) comments that Malcolm sings while he does his work. Malcolm responds that he sings when he works because it gives him purpose which makes him happy. Opie then says that Aunt Bea used to sing a lot when she worked but now she doesn’t sing at all. Realizing that he has actually done a disservice by taking on so much work, Malcolm leaves Andy’s household and Aunt Bea happily resumes her old routine.

This story resonated with me because Aunt Bea reminds me of my grandmother, Anna. Even when she hit her nineties, she was consumed with staying busy. She would cook for herself, my uncle, and sometimes for me and my parents. She was always dusting, sweeping, and washing the porch.

Much of her life had consisted of this kind of caretaking especially the many years when my grandfather suffered from Parkinson’s Disease. We thought she’d ease up when she got older – and she did to a degree. When she hit 85, she stopped shoveling snow (though she did sweep the light stuff off the porch). I couldn’t understand why she didn’t take it easy more because she definitely didn’t need to do as much as she did – and we, her family, always offered our help.

Then, years ago, I saw this episode of “The Andy Griffith Show” and it registered. My grandmother’s work gave her life purpose. She had loved ones for whom she could do things and that made her happy. And she was stiil in surprisingly good shape in her nineties so this approach was obviously working. We, her family, definitely focused on helpign her out with things but never to the point where we took all her work away. That would have done more harm than good.

Even in the final months of her life when she was unexpectedly diagnosed with fatal leukemia, we let my grandmother continue to do some cooking because it made her feel useful. I tried telling her to relax so she could preserve her strength but that just made her angry. Her hardworking, independent streak remained with her until her final couple of weeks.

Sometimes I think it would be nice to do nothing. And for an occasional short period of time, it is nice to do nothing. But we all need some kinds of activities to give our lives purpose especially when those activities are geared toward people we love. It may require some hard work and sacrifice on our part. But sometimes that’s a good thing regardless of how old you are.

(You can watch the episode below)

Mychal’s Message


College student Shannon Hickey won the James Keller Award at last year’s Christopher Awards ceremony for starting a ministry for the homeless called “Mychal’s Message” when she was 11-years-old. It was created in honor of family friend, Father Mychal Judge, the first person killed on the ground at the World Trade Center on 9/11.

Shannon has been studying Communications and Broadcasting in college, and she recently put together this video about “Mychal’s Message” and the work they do. It’s definitely worth a look.

Also – Father Mychal’s prayer would be a great addition to your daily prayer ritual:

Mychal’s Prayer (copyright Holy Name Province):
Lord, take me where You want me to go,
let me meet who You want me to meet,
tell me what You want me to say,
and keep me out of Your way.