There’s been a lot of recent discussion about how “men need respect” and “women need love.” This view has gained more attention with the popular book, “Love and Respect,” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It’s a wonderful book and I wholeheartedly recommend it, but some people have missed the point of his book (and my previous post on 7 ways a husband needs respect from his wife) by thinking that men only need respect (not love) and women only need love (not… Read more

My wife, Ashley, and I have interacted with married couples from all over the world. Many of these couples are healthy and thriving, but many others remain stuck in a perpetual state of dysfunction. Some of them have been living in the dysfunction for so long that they don’t even think anything is wrong. Ruining a marriage seems tragically “normal” these days. It’s remarkable what can start feeling “normal” if it goes on long enough! I’m not a Psychologist, so I’m… Read more

February 14 can come and go without much fanfare for the typical married couple, but don’t miss out on this opportunity to recharge your marriage! I know finding the right gift for your man on Valentine’s Day can be tough, so I’ve put together a list below to help you think of some new, man-approved gift suggestions. Don’t buy your husband flowers or chocolates. He doesn’t need more Old Spice or another tie. If you want to make his day… Read more

I’ve written some blog articles in five minutes or less, but this one has taken me almost 4o years! Seriously. I’m turning forty in October and I’ve been pondering on some mid-life reflections about what I’ve learned, what I’ve accomplished and all the times I’ve failed. I wanted to get a tattoo, a crazy hairstyle and a motorcycle for my stereotypical mid-life crisis, but Ashley wisely talked me out of it, so I decided to just write a blog post… Read more

If you are married, then EVERYTHING you do will ultimately impact your marriage in some way. Your actions (even the ones you think are positive) could have unintended consequences in your marriage. So, how do we avoid the unintended consequences? My friend Rusty George is an exceptional communicator, a Jesus-loving pastor and an all-around great guy. He wrote an article about these “unintended consequences” and marriage and it really resonated with me. With his permission, I’m posting it here. His… Read more

In marriage, SEX and HONESTY are like two wings on the same bird. You need BOTH for your marriage to soar. My wife Ashley and I recently wrote a book called The Naked Truth about Sex and Marriage which is designed to spark some very honest and intimate conversations between a husband and wife that can help them improve their sex life and all other aspects of their marriage too. We’ve found that one issue in marriage that needs greater honesty and… Read more

Today, a friend reached out to me and shared an article from Women’s Health magazine on “Microcheating” and what most couples consider to be a form of infidelity. As you can imagine, nearly everyone agrees that sex with someone other than your spouse is cheating, but this article pointed out a large “gray area” where people couldn’t seem to agree on what’s off limits and what’s not. I certainly don’t see it as my job to referee everyone’s relationship, but as a… Read more

  Abortion has become a polarizing political issue where we’ve bought into the myth that we must decide between respecting women or respecting life. It’s a fallacious argument. As a pastor, I’ve seen that abortion has a devastating impact on all those involved. The politicians and abortion providers don’t tell you about the long-lasting emotional scars, and the guttural feelings of regret and loss. Here’s the truth (Statistically and Biblically)… According to the current statistical research, approximately 25% of all… Read more

I recently sat down with a young husband in my office and he began to tell me a story about how he had been caught by his wife after he’d had some very inappropriate and sexually explicit text message exchanges with a woman at his workplace. His wife had sensed something was going on, because he has been subconsciously pulling away from his wife emotionally and physically as he was giving more and more thought to this other woman. (For… Read more

I recently wrote a post about the things every husband desires from his wife, which generated a lot of discussion, and many have asked for a follow up addressing those things wives desire and deserve from their husbands. Since I’m a guy, I’m clearly not any kind of expert on what women think or desire, so I asked my amazing wife, Ashley (who was the inspiration behind the first post), and she gave me some very wise insights to share with you…. Read more

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