Why I’m Still a Christian

I’m still a Christian because the Biblical story speaks to my deepest needs, longings, pleasures, and pains. I’m still a Christian because the Biblical story communicates a world view that makes sense to me. I’m still a Christian because the Biblical story affirms five core beliefs that I see at work in my life, in humankind, and in the world. [Read more...]

Why Slow Writing is the Only Kind I Want to Do

Fallow times are as necessary for writers as they are for fields and gardens. We see only silence and stagnation; we fail to recall the necessary preparation that’s happening under the surface. [Read more...]

On a Difficult Anniversary, Making Room for the Better Stories

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I will always remember that terrible June day in 2009. But I’ve reached a point now where I can breathe a little easier than I used to. I can think of all the other stories I can tell about my girl, and that she can tell about herself, stories that matter just as much as the story of her accident, if not more. [Read more...]

When Love Outlasts Death: Janis Heaphy Durham’s “The Hand on the Mirror”

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While many Christians see paranormal activity as a threat to orthodoxy, surely those of us who believe that a dead man rose to life again after three days in a tomb can make room in our world for the possibility that loved ones will reach out to us from beyond the grave, that the love we shared continues as a real and powerful force in the world. [Read more...]

How Technology Has—and Hasn’t—Changed the Experience of Having a Baby

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What has changed since I had my first baby is that the divide between public and private has become far murkier; we must choose more deliberately between engagement and solitude, attention directed outward and inward, and fight to give ourselves fully to each pursuit at the proper time. [Read more...]

Church is for Misfits

As people aligned with a God who promises to do new things among us, to bring about no less than a new heaven and a new earth, we are called to question, to disturb, to explore—not to just quietly accept the status quo, slipping into the neat roles that others insist we fill. We are called to be misfits. [Read more...]

What It Means to Belong to a Church

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When we moved from D.C. to Connecticut, we hoped to find a new community that would look a lot like the one we left behind. We never did. But we found what we needed most, which is a place where we belong. We learned that belonging isn’t about shopping around to find a group of people just like us, or a place where we can check off all our requirements for an ideal community. Belonging is mostly about showing up, becoming disillusioned, and staying anyway. [Read more...]

“Why don’t you just adopt?” is the wrong question to ask infertile couples. Here’s why.

Besides making people feel defensive for experiencing the fundamentally human urge to conceive and bear a child (a defensiveness that makes helpful conversation difficult), the question “Why don’t you just adopt?” glosses over some important truths about adoption. [Read more...]


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