Does Oversharing Online Scar Our Kids?

CNN has an interesting feature online today about whether or not we — as parents — are “oversharing” our children’s lives on social media. Read the entire article, but my favorite portion of the feature was this video interview with Blake Wilson, a.k.a. “Bat Dad”:

Having just returned from a long weekend with my adorable niece, I can tell you that it took an overabundance of self-control not to share any of the adorable iPhone pics I captured of that little cutie. But I recognized early on as Auntie that it’s not my place to share those photos outside of my home. I raised my boys in a simpler time, when Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Vine weren’t beckoning us to constantly post the many memorable moments that fill our days.

By the time I started blogging, my boys were a bit older. I won’t say I’ve never written about them — because that would obviously be a lie. But I can tell you that I’ve been increasingly cognizant of their need for privacy for several years now. This means that I ask them before I share and that anything that might embarrass them in any way doesn’t hit the grid.

Can I say I’d make that decision over again had my boys been born fifteen years later than they were? I’m honestly not sure. In many ways, we learn from and are inspired by some of the moms and dads who choose to go public with fun family moments. Will Bat Dad’s kids be scarred by his silliness? I think not.

A question for you: How do you feel about posting family photos online?

About Lisa M. Hendey

Lisa M. Hendey is the founder and editor of CatholicMom.com and the bestselling author of The Handbook for Catholic Moms and A Book of Saints for Catholic Moms.

  • http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.com/ Manny

    I have a four year old son and I do have a day of the week on my blog (I call it “Matthew Monday”) where I share something on him. His privacy has crossed my mind and I have wondered at what age i should stop. Seven or eight is what I’m thinking. Certainly before ten. What’s a good age to stop?

    • lisahendey

      Manny I think that’s a great question… honestly I don’t think that there is a “one size fits all” answer. I think we each have to know our children, and also be talking with them all the time about this as they get older. Both for the images we share, as well as the ones they will one day share themselves…

      • http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.com/ Manny

        Thanks.

    • http://randomactsofmomness.com/ Ginny Kubitz Moyer

      I agree with Lisa. I think every parent has to figure this out for him/herself.

      As a writer who writes about motherhood, I’ve noticed that as my kids have gotten older – out of baby/toddlerhood– my awareness of their need for privacy has increased. Now, my older son has a peer group to which he’ll belong for several years. The last thing I want is for my son to come home from school and say, “Mom! I can’t believe you told that embarrassing story on your blog!” (Not that his classmates read my blog, but you get the point.) I don’t want to destroy his social capital because of something I post online. :)

      • http://ashesfromburntroses.blogspot.com/ Manny

        Thank you.

  • MeanLizzie

    I’ve never posted a picture of my sons, except as children. I just don’t. They’re entitled to their privacy, and also to not be “hated” or “loved” just because I’m their mother. When Buster was a teen I would write about him sometimes, but never with a current picture. And I still don’t use their real names. As far as I’m concerned, FB is the devil’s own playground and if I didn’t have to post there for work, I’d avoid it like the plague. It’s so easy to get sucked into — as I do get sucked into it, even when I try to resist. Ego, narcissism….it’s a bad place.

  • Victor

    A question for you: How do you feel about posting family photos online?

    http://www.blogger.com/profile/15443898648764230515
    I must confess that I did post a lot of our children’s pictures in my first two blogs while they were mostly younger but I’m happy to say that it was all done out of love.
    Long story short and as far as I know, all of our five daughters still say that they love me and I want to keep it that way. Every time I see any of our younger grand children, I usually ask them who’s child they are and they usually reply, “Jesus’s” and that’s good enough for me.
    What I’m trying to say is that during my old age, I won’t be starting a third blog cause I just don’t trust my idols if YA know what I mean now?
    I hear YA! But GOD does work in mysterious ways Victor! :)
    In closing I want to thank all of our brothers and sisters in Christ for their continued prayers.
    God Bless Peace


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