Hour-Long Q&A at Idea Camp Sex in Vegas

ICSEX – Andrew Marin Breakout Session from The Idea Camp on Vimeo.

Watching this video back I learned another valuable lesson in critiquing myself for what it means to speak in public – what is in my head doesn’t always translate in certain moments in vocalization. But, the life of learning what it means to live and love, especially when much of what you do is recorded or documented, isn’t always easy or doesn’t always come out right.

At the very end of the talk I answered a question asked of me about what it looks like to “speak into someone’s life”. I could have made my answer much more clear that I was focusing on the broader principle of: Don’t worry about what it looks like to ‘speak into someone elses life’ – worry about letting others speak into your own before you ever think anyone else will be gracious to what you have to say; no matter what the outcome. Though if you didn’t know that was my goal, some parts of my answer could have been assumed by some conservative-leaning folks as ‘how to earn the right to focus on behavior modification.’ That potentially concluded statement was not my intent. When I used the word ‘change’ one time I used it in reference to my own internal state of being. And when I say ‘speak the truth’ and ‘hope’ I was talking about a continuance in the fidelity of the relationship no matter what the outcome.

I know with me saying all of this most of you will probably go directly to the end of the talk and listen specifically for this last question. But I ask that after you do that, please go to the beginning and listen to the whole talk and get the full understanding of what I am indeed communicating about a variety of topics on the difficulty in living intentionally with the most divisive topic in our culture today. Throughout this talk I spoke about a lot of very personal stuff that I haven’t yet shared to this point. I know no other way in my life than to keep it as real as I know how. I’m sorry if what I said at the very end offended anyone or negated the other hour and two minutes of what I said. Even the potential of that being the case hurts my heart.

My goal is to humbly receive everything you all have to say and take it all to heart. I look forward to engaging.

Please tell me what are your thoughts, questions, critiques or concerns to what I said throughout this video?

Much love.


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  • Andrew,
    Thank you so much for these words. Your honesty has so much worth, especially when you speak about how hard it is to love the Church when they should know better. You say so well so many things that are on my heart but I cannot articulate.
    Thank you, thank you, thank you for your work.

    • Wow. Thank you Anna. I’m really humbled. Your words mean a lot to me. Much love!

  • Bradd

    Thank you Andrew.

  • Jan

    Andrew, I am a lesbian atheist (sometimes call myself a ‘gaytheist’ – ever heard that one before?) who was married to a United Methodist minister for 16 years. A friend sent me a link to http://www.loveisanorientation.com. Normally I would ignore it. I’m what you might call a ‘strong atheist.’ For whatever reason I clicked the link and just realized I’ve been reading and watching you for two hours. Wow. You could say that I’ve been on both sides of “us vs them,” the church side and now the LGBT side. I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here, except that you might be the first Christian I’ve listened to for more than 3 minutes in the last ten years. I’m still an atheist (sorry!), but you have pulled me away from being so judgemental myself, and helped lead me to a place that’s more open and loving. Thank you. If there is ever anything I can do for you I hope you’ll let me know. I might say no, but who knew I’d jump on board with an evangelist tonight?

    • Wow. Seriously Jan. I’m floored. Thanks for honestly writing about yourself. I’d love to keep in touch. You can email me at andrew@themarinfoundation.org. I have some atheist friends and they always keep me on my toes. 🙂 Much love.