Faggot is Still Alive

Life in Boystown: As all of you probably know I live in the LGBT neighborhood of Chicago called Boystown, It’s where my friends live, it’s where I hang out, it’s where I go out to eat, where I go to the bank, work out, go grocery shopping and where I get my hair cut. These are the stories of my everyday experiences in the neighborhood.

I was walking the other day to get my haircut. My stylist, and the owner of the shop, were hanging outside the shop talking. As I approached them I gave them each a hug. At the time of the hug to the final person a truck slowed down right in front of us. 3 construction workers leaned out the windows and yelled:

FFFFFFFAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGOOOOOOOTTTTTTTSSSSSSSS

Then the truck’s wheels started squealing and it sped off.

Classy. And cowardly.

Faggot is still alive. Don’t think it’s not.

Much love.

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About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation (www.themarinfoundation.org). He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Stephanie

    How depressing.

    And it’s great that you’re living alongside folks in a way that has you getting yelled at, too. It sounds strange, but your staying there and not freaking out speaks volumes.

  • wackywilliams

    I knew I heard it occanaly still, but mostly from a gay persons mouth as a frindly jab towards himself, or another. but I am guessing that anyone that uses it now days douse not know its orgins or original meaning, or I would guss they wouln’t use it so freely. I know I had a gay frind that I attended recovery meeting with on face book post one mornig he was smoking a fag, I knew what he ment (cigerette) & thought it was cool he was using old terms but then went on to exsplane how that word came to be used aginst gays & sposed gays, becuse they would dump hot tar on them & light them on fire to beable to use them to light there torches. my frind resonded oh thanks now I will have night mares!! I said all that to say I think if people knew the origens & meanings of alot of the words they throw around, they would use them a lot less! sorry you guys had to exsperince that non the less. & hope you got a good haircut :)

  • http://northernoutpostpa.blogspot.com Shieldmaiden1196

    People drive by me sometimes and yell ‘FAT BITCH’. I don’t see that stopping anytime soon either.

  • BrianMcD

    Yeah it is sad and depressing but it goes both ways (no pun intended). The last time I was in boys town, my girlfriend and I were harassed by a couple of lesbians. The shouted “BREEDERS GO HOME” right after we kissed. Intolerance is bad any way you look at it and in my opinion the Gay and Lesbian Activists are as intolerant as any.

  • http://www.gocatalyst.org Eric

    Hey buddy!

    This makes me think of BeckyO(F) when she had (has?) that rainbow fish symbol on her car and folks were giving her dirty looks and making comments assuming that she was lesbian.

    I’ve always respected the fact that the two of you allow yourselves to be mistaken for being gay without the need to correct them. For those moments, you really are walking in our shoes and can empathize.

    Eric

  • http://jontrouten.blogspot.com/ Jon Trouten

    Tyler the Creator was awarded “Best New Artist” at the recent VMA. His current album contains over 213 anti-gay slurs, including lots of usages of “faggot”. http://hypetrak.com/2011/08/glaad-upset-over-tyler-the-creators-vma-win/

  • pmview

    Years ago someone once yelled at me, “hey, weight-watchers help!” … certainly it’s not the same but perhaps following the same pattern … they target those neighbors in their community to heap verbal shame through the act of shouting out in public.places … they are attempting to establish public humilation and ridicule as a way of lowering their targets into a garbage heap … Not the acceptable medium of engaugement for sure!


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