“Christian” “Friends” can be Cowards

It’s a shame it’s so true. And Christian folks wonder why so many non-believers keep saying ‘Church’ has such a bad reputation. Christians keep turning their back on themselves because of too many fear based thought-processes. Seriously, just have someone’s back. Not that hard.

Much love.

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About Andrew Marin

Andrew Marin is President and Founder of The Marin Foundation (www.themarinfoundation.org). He is author of the award winning book Love Is an Orientation (2009), its interactive DVD curriculum (2011), and recently an academic ebook titled Our Last Option: How a New Approach to Civility can Save the Public Square (2013). Andrew is a regular contributor to a variety of media outlets and frequently lectures at universities around the world. Since 2010 Andrew has been asked by the United Nations to advise their various agencies on issues of bridging opposing worldviews, civic engagement, and theological aspects of reconciliation. For twelve years he lived in the LGBT Boystown neighborhood of Chicago, and is currently based St. Andrews, Scotland, where he is teaching and researching at the University of St. Andrews earning his PhD in Constructive Theology with a focus on the Theology of Culture. Andrew's research centers on the cultural, political, and religious dynamics of reconciliation. Andrew is married to Brenda, and you can find him elsewhere on Twitter (@Andrew_Marin), Facebook (AndrewMarin01), and Instagram (@andrewmarin1).

  • Kathy

    Andrew, Jesus is your brand. He is always loyal. I hear you. Forgive and remember that we are ALL sinners and those “friends” are too. Maybe this is their time to see their own sin and turn around from their own brand to Jesus. Forgive as you are forgiven, brother, and keep your eyes on the prize. Your Sister.

  • Lindsay

    I know that I am only this single voice commenting on your “almost daily reflection” :) but I am a recent, huge fan who would be a lesbian if I hadn’t come to encounter Jesus..I totally agree that these people should not have done this to you or said those things but…your orientation is Love…”love your enemies”. Its hard. You are having to love at a higher level and showcase that love for all of us through the blows that you are personally taking right now. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter who endorses or upholds what Jesus is saying though you and your book. ITs His. His word. His orientation. His Love. He will get the message across.

  • Anon

    I’m sure this hurts, and I’m sorry. But I have to point out: they will be much less effective as advocates for you or for reaching out to the LGBT community if they have alienated the communities in which they work by taking a public stand on a polarizing issue. And even if they choose not to support your work or your cause at all, does that mean you can’t be friends? Don’t you yourself teach about the importance of loving people with whom we disagree?

  • Mrs T

    It would have been better if they said nothing, but don’t be too bitter. I’m sure you will feel better in a few days. :)

    Realize that you have MANY friends! Yeah!

  • Ron Graves

    An observation..the hard part about relationships is thatothers get to determine the level of their relationship with us. Its fair, its right, it ensures each others dignity; whether we embrace our own faults, failings or bailings is a matter (which doesn’t rest in our hands). Truth poses an interesting dynamic for us all & if for whatever reason our experience of grace is less than what it could be, its awkward and some folks don’t handle awkwardness well. We may even see very clearly into their present dilema & our words will fall short of their well-intended goal…its called process and its not for the faint of heart or the thin of skin. Hopefully we will trust God and each other enough to learn how to proceed without getting the daylights thrashed out of us (by us I mean all of us) and our love remains the central point of our strength and peace. Hard fought and challenged is this path..we cannot change our current culture without us stepping up to be the champions we have no choice but to be. The outcome rests in someOne else’s hands and He’s pretty good at what He does. (we’re living proof believe it or not)

  • Tony

    Hey Andrew, I hear you loud and clear. Remember that Jesus ended up calling the religious teachers many names, even hypocrites when he encountered them. They were the ones that were looked up to but it didn’t matter to Jesus. He called an ACE and ACE. Tell it like it is and go on from there. The Devil even used Judas for a bad deed and judas walked with Jesus and saw all the works and people HE (Jesus) touched. God bless you in your efforts toward was is righteous in God. Keep loving those that the religious people won’t touch and you will have your reward in heaven. It is sure better to have a reward instead of a millstone tied around your neck and be cast into the sea. You see, Jesus had and knew of people like that. What a work you have begun. Finish it until Jesus comes my friend.
    By the way I am an xpastor who is being revived to work with the glbt community with my wife at my side. What a challenge and a blessing. Love you.

  • http://psychosiswar.wordpress.com Nate

    Man, this is TRUTH! Get it son!

  • http://jontrouten.blogspot.com/ Jon Trouten

    Andrew: Try not to let those people get you down. I agree that you need to be choosy about the amount of time and energy that you put into other people’s projects. After all, you only have so much time and energy to devote to your own projects — and, trust me, you have a lot of projects going on at any given time. Maybe next time you can refer those folks to someone else. I’m all about passing on favors!

    Love ya, man!

  • Sam in San Diego

    Some “Christians” can be like this. It’s all about what THEY want and need. They’re either baby Christians, or just people playing at religion to make a living. How about sending them a thoughtful e-mail expressing your disappointment in their lack of support for you and your book, especially in light of your friendship and the time and help you’ve given them?

  • Jon

    Peter denied he ever knew Jesus three times when he realized what it might cost him. It takes courage to LIVE the gospel and often our “friends” who are great at talking the gospel talk will back away when we invite them to walk the gospel walk with us because it is too expensive for them. But Jesus kept loving Peter. Don’t let your disappointment ever become a wall. Keep praying, keep hoping!

    • Frank

      I think you have it backwards. Living and walking the gospel demands we deny ourselves (sexuality included).

      The only ones who are denying the gospel are those that believe Jesus cannot transform sinful sexuality. The only ones who are denying the gospel are the “born that way” and “God made me that way” crowd.

      • Ron Graves

        Mr. Pot meet Mr. Kettle


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