Strength in “Weakness”

I could hear Ms Action wailing before my husband reached the top of the stairs. “Why is she always changing her clothes? Like 40,000 times a day!” he huffed. Yes, our 4 year old loves to dress up. She changes her clothes all day long, and tends to leave the discarded outfits wherever she stripped them off, making for quite a mess. My husband had found her changing her outfit again and yelled at her.

I have to admit I giggled. You see, my husband loves clothes. He is picky about what he wears, he has been known to change his outfit in the middle of the day, and he looks forward to those rare times that we get the chance to go clothes shopping.

“Um, honey? Do you really think yelling at her makes much sense. I mean, it drives us both crazy. But she’s just a little girl, who loves to dress up. And really, you’re kind of the same way, you love to dress up too.” He already had a small grin on his face, and by the time a tearful Ms Action rounded the corner, he crouched down to her height and apologized.

“I’m sorry. I was wrong to yell at you, yelling is not a nice thing to do. Will you forgive me?” They hugged and went off into the living room together to read a book.


Even though I’ve seen it before, it’s like watching a miracle every time. A full grown man admitting he is wrong? A father saying he is sorry to his small daughter? I never knew it was possible. It still warms my heart every time I see him humble himself.

When I mentioned it to him later, and thanked him for being willing to apologize to her, he replied “Well, you were right! It was silly for me to yell at her, especially for something that I do myself.”

Again, it stuns me. I was right? He really thinks I was right about something? I was able to talk with him and communicate something I felt he was wrong about, and he thought I was right? It’s something I’ve never really experienced. I was always told that women had to be quiet, submissive, and support everything the men in their life did as long as it wasn’t requiring them to sin. A man admitting he was wrong was weak. Men could not stoop so low, because that would be relinquishing their “God-given Authority”.

My husband continues to be my inspiration in love, parenting, and faith. His willingness to be humble, admit wrongdoing and make it right, hear me as an equal and treat me as an equal, are amazing to me.

He demonstrates a level of strength I have never seen, because he is OK with the fact that he has weakness.
I’m linking this post up with Simple Moments: Bigger Picture Moment.
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  • Michelle

    How awesome. I love this about my husband, too. And I always remember that God humbled HIMSELF to be human like us. And God seems to always bring strength from the weakest (in our human opinion) circumstances. :)

  • Joy

    What an amazing model of strength and sensitivity he is providing for his daughters, hopefully this will become a useful yardstick in the future.

  • Alita

    You got a keeper for sure. My hubby rarely admits when he is wrong (because he is never wrong… ahem.) but do you think it is easier admitting your weaknesses to your children than your wife? I have no idea. I'm pretty stubborn, too. This "bigger picture" is something I really need to work on. Thank you for sharing this very sweet example of admitting when you are wrong and learning from it! :)))


  • Hyacynth

    Oh, yes. There is definite strength in admitting weakness. A perfect bigger picture moment, friend. I'm so glad he can minister to your heart in such a beautiful way. Thanks for sharing that moment.

  • CM

    That last line is awesome, and it is so true that it is such a strength to be able to admit that!

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  • Deb Paul

    Wow, that is so wonderful. It's funny how we harp on our children about something we do ourselves. And yes, in the eyes of Christ you are as equally cherished and being such, everything that grieves you, i.e. your child being yelled at over something so trite and for a common practice for little girls(at least my three little girls!), a humble heart can and will take note of and respect and listen to. So glad to know that even though your husband is a minister, he hasn't let that keep him from seeing that he, like Jesus, should come to humbly serve and not tout his "authority". Jesus was the son of God and He didn't tout His. He was perfect and a beautiful expression of humility and kindness, except to those who refuse to take on humility and denounce their pious religious ways. I find that very interesting. I noticed that you were reading my blog and I see that I will be glad to read yours. Very good post.


  • This Heavenly Life

    So true — it's impossible to be afraid of a man who's willing to admit his own weaknesses. Which is good, because I don't believe we were intended to be controlled with fear! Your husband sounds like a wonderful father :)

  • not a minx, a moron, or a parasite

    Wow, what a wonderful post! God bless you & your family!