Parenting Resources

So yes, I want to write. I have about a dozen half written pieces, including some that are almost complete. I just haven’t been able to pull it together. Baby Boy has cut two teeth and the girls have been rather stir-crazy being in the house as the weather has gotten colder. We have been cleaning the house and baking cookies and zuchinni bread, reading books, dealing with emotional ups and downs and playing with ideas for the Holiday’s.

I’ve really been hoping to finish my next Gentle Parenting Tools installment, but since I haven’t gotten to it yet, I figured that I would share the wealth of information that I’ve discovered and learned from.

 As you can see, I’ve added two pages the top of my blog. “Books along the Journey” is a list of books that have impacted me, and “Parenting Websites” is a list of blogs, websites and facebook pages that have been encouraging me as I’ve changed. I hope to continue to add to these when I find new resources. And of course I still have the book reviews I’ve posted here on the blog, and I’ve linked some info in my discipline posts as well.  Enjoy! I hope to be back with a real post soon.

P.S.  Just as a service announcement (and full disclosure of just how computer illiterate I am), did you know that if you right click on a link you can select “open in a new tab” or “open in a new window”? This recent discovery has changed how I use the Internet! No more clicking on links and subsequently back paging to try to finish the article I was reading. :)

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  • Jessica

    I add an HTML code to all my external links on my blog so that they automatically open in new tabs. I recently read a bunch of articles saying how this was a horrible practice and no one should ever do this because if the person wants to open a link in a new tab, they'll right-click and do it themselves.

    So I just had to say thank you for (1) proving that I'm not the only one who is annoyed when I lose the website I was on because their links didn't automatically open in a new tab and (2) showing that not everyone knows the right-click trick. :)

  • Brea

    If you have a mouse with a center scroll wheel, you can click it (rather than scrolling it) on a link, and that will automatically open the link in a new tab.

    My Firefox always has 20+ tabs open because I middle-click anything someone links to that I want to read, and they accumulate while I'm reading the original piece.

  • K

    I've also found, just recently, if you hold "Ctrl" while clicking with the left mouse button, it opens the link in a new background tab so you don't even lose your spot.

    I've had close to 40 tabs open that way :)

  • Scott Morizot

    Hmmm. I use session manager plugin for firefox to retain session memory of the ways I have my tabs organized in different browser windows. (They open every time I restart firefox.) And I 'pin' anchor app tabs. So I have a browser window just for managing my blog with a number of pinned tabs. I have a browser window for gmail and pinned tabs for managing my hosting service. Etc.

  • Cici

    Jessica it is not a horrible practice. I so appreciate people that take the time to make the link always open in a new tab/window. Sometimes I forget to right click. :)

    Thanks Melissa for putting the links up. I have many useful resources through your blog.

  • Caravelle

    Congratulations Melissa ! You've now entered the stage of having 50 tabs open at all times because you opened them three months ago and you can't close them now because you haven't READ them yet but if you close them you'll forget you wanted to read them !

    And then you never want to turn off Firefox again because when you turn it back on you'll have to wait for all those tabs to load.

    The worst is when there are five youtube videos among them, and six PDFs and mp3s asking to be re-downloaded.

  • africaturtle

    oh thank you, thank you…i've been looking for this kind of list lately and will definitely check out all of your "finds"! :)

  • Melissa

    Man, you guys are all techies compared to me, I have no idea what you are talking about! :)

  • ‘Becca

    Don't worry about not writing much for a while! I am subscribed and will read your new posts as you get around to them.

    I recently got an iPad, so I will share how to "open in new window" (it doesn't do tabs) for anyone who hasn't figured it out: Instead of tapping the link, hold your finger down. A pop-up menu will give you some options. Beware of opening too many windows at once, though, because if you open more than 9 it will start closing others to make space!

  • Musical Atheist

    Drat, I tried commenting on this yesterday and it didn't seem to go through! I just wanted to recommend another parenting blog, 'The Meming of Life' by Dale McGowan. It's from an explicitly secular/non-religious perspective, so I don't know if you will be interested, but I think the writer's love and respect for his children just shines. If you're interested, you can find it at his website

  • ~Cindy! :)

    I wish I could have told you about the tab thing. Simple things can elude us on here… it took TEN YEARS or more for me to know the easy way to open a sub directory in the hard drive explorer! Maybe even 15! I only found out how in the last month. My whole life I never knew how.

    ~Cindy! :)

  • ~Cindy! :)

    THANKS BREA!!! That works GREAT!!! (just click the scroll wheel, and a tab opens.)

    ~Still Learning ~Cindy! :)

  • Anonymous

    Hi! I came across your blog more or less randomly and I've read a few of your posts about parenting. I just wanted to say this:

    My parents never, ever hit me. Not once. They always explained everything to me, and there were consequences for everything, good or bad, depending. Even before I could speak, my mother explained to me if she had to leave, or if something was wrong, or if I did something wrong.

    I am autistic. They didn't know this; we didn't find out until I was 20 so it wasn't a consideration in my upbringing. I was a terror – tantrums, shouting, crying, and much of it for no discernible reason. I pushed my parents to the edge of their patience and understanding. But they stayed true to their convictions and talked and listened and tried to understand. They let me feel the consequences – if I was too bold, I was sent to my room – but they never hit me. I don't even want to imagine what would have happened if they hadn't explained, if they'd just punished me whenever I did something wrong. The world is so confusing. If I hadn't had my parents to explain it to me and help me, I don't know what I would've done. Given up, probably. I'd be a complete mess.

    I'm 25 now and I have a really, really wonderful relationship with my family. I can tell my mother anything (and I do). I trust her completely. I didn't rebel or cause any trouble as a teenager; if something came up, we talked it through, sometimes we argued it out, but we always reached an understanding. I never had problems at school, I've never had problems with friends or relationships.

    I just wanted to say that I think you are absolutely right in what you're doing here. Everything I read about your attitude to parenting, I've found myself nodding to, and I recognised it as my parents' (and my own future) approach. And I wanted to share this with you because I think that I am living proof that this approach works.

    Good luck and best wishes to you and yours.

    ~ Denise

  • Melissa

    Thank you Denise! You have no idea how encouraging stories like your's are!