Is God Aloof?

“What are we to do with a God who hides?”This is the question Tony Kriz asks in his book Aloof, and I must share that my immediate and visceral reaction to the question was:Wait, God doesn’t hide. Not in my life.Not anymore.The God I use to know, pre-Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome, that God was absent all the time. I was constantly playing cosmic hide ‘n seek with a companion who had the power of invisibility. (Not a fair game, by the way.)Our church was charismatic, which bas … [Read more...]

Seven Things We Forget When Our Resolutions Fail


Our resolutions fail around the sixth day of January—or maybe the fifteenth if we’re really disciplined and really imaginative and really motivated—not because our inner child/artist/ is injured, or because we don’t actually want to change.(Even if our inner child is bleeding and our inner artist suffers from painter’s block, we do want to change, dammit! Have you seen our credit card debt, thighs and messy closets? )No. Our resolutions don’t fail because we lack discipline, or imaginatio … [Read more...]

The Special Forces Guide to Surviving Christmas


Does “First they tell you not to panic, and then they try to drown you,” sound like Christmas with your family? If so, this post is for you.“First they tell you not to panic, and then they try to drown you,” explains author Ben Sherwood in his fantastic book The Survivor’s Club: The Secrets and Science that Could Save Your Life, about how the military teaches Marine Corps Aviation Survival Training, aka “the art and craft of escaping from crashing jets and sinking helicopters”.If a crashi … [Read more...]

I Am Capable of Torture…And So Are You


We all are all horrified about the C.I.A.’s ‘Torture report’.We are all shocked at the brutality in the name of country, and the pain inflicted in the name of safety.We are also all capable of those acts—and worse.Though I believe we can and should judge the system critically to analyze what and how went wrong, we also need to recognize that it could have been any one of us in the role of Torturer.“Oh no, not me!” I can hear you think…because it’s what I think, too. I’m strong-wil … [Read more...]

A Poem for Survivors


You are closer than you know More capable than you dream And more grace-filled than you dared believe.That which could not kill you Has not only made you stronger: It has also made you softer In beautiful ways. So take all that grit and bend Align it with the winds Of change headed your way. Knowing that the path Already laid before you Will be better as you walk it This day.Every once in a great while I wake up with a poem running past, and I have to grab a pen (or a phone!) … [Read more...]



I use this hashtag in my correspondence every time I mention a Really Audacious Goal. Since I have a whole bunch of Really Audacious Goals when it comes to this whole writing thing, our team sees #NoSmallDreams A LOT.#NoSmallDreams is intended to remind everyone, especially me, to ignore “the odds”--because in my heart of hearts, I really don’t believe in odds: I believe that Hard Work + Divine Alignment= Miracles.(Please don’t be impressed by my “faith”. I feel this way because I’ve expe … [Read more...]