50 Shades of Shame: “The Rules” of Modesty


When “Jesus” says the length of your skirt is a measure of your heart, body shame is unavoidable. Where there is unavoidable body shame, you’ll find rampant sexual shame. Where you find rampant sexual shame, you find women who think abuse is okay. That pisses me off. Kate Schell’s blog post Immodest Proposals: The Rules so perfectly encapsulates [Read More...]

Biblical Sexting: A How-To Guide


This Valentine’s Day, spice up your relationship the Bible way. Step #1: Open with a Biblical compliment Sweet The Lord is with thee, mighty man of valor. (Jud 6:15) You are a woman full of good works and alms deeds. (Acts 9:36) You are perfect and upright. (Job 1:1) Slightly racy Your lips are like [Read More...]

I’m in love my husband…and other people, too.


I’m going to talk about something that isn’t talked about, so if you’re squeamish, or have very recently fallen in love, please look away. I’m in love my husband, but I love other men, too. And women, for that matter. Not in a sexual way– not even in a romantic way. But in a goddam [Read More...]

A Response to the 10 Types of Women Christian Men Shouldn’t Marry


10 thoughts on the “10 Types of Women Christian Men Shouldn’t Marry” After reading the recent blog post “10 Types of Women Christian Men Shouldn’t Marry”*, my husband, Trent, exclaimed, “UGH! I’ve made a HUGE MISTAKE! You’re like every one of those things, almost, all in one! How did I go so wrong?”….Before dissolving into [Read More...]

Dear Katy Perry: If You Have Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome, You Are Not Alone


Dear Katy, Since the Super Bowl (where you totally ROCKED it, sister!), I’ve seen articles pop up in the religious blogosphere about how you sold your soul to the devil for fame; your half-time show was all demons and witchcraft and sexual perversity; you ought to be ashamed of backslidden, sinful, lascivious self and get [Read More...]

Is God Aloof?

“What are we to do with a God who hides?” This is the question Tony Kriz asks in his book Aloof, and I must share that my immediate and visceral reaction to the question was: Wait, God doesn’t hide. Not in my life. Not anymore. The God I use to know, pre-Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome, that [Read More...]