The founding fathers get a free pass. The feminists? Not so much.

It is more than acceptable in our society to quote one of the founding fathers to prove a point. I see liberals and conservatives do this alike, and, even though I rarely quote these men, I am not necessarily going to criticize those who do (so if you're going to skip straight to the comments and argue with me about why it's okay to quote the founding fathers, save it).But many of our founding fathers were racists and slave-owners. This is undeniable. We know this, yet we quote their words … [Read more...]

Amazing bell hooks quote of the day

From bell hooks' book, All About Love: New Visions: Religious fundamentalism is often represented as authentic spiritual practice and given a level of mass media exposure that countercultural religious thought and practice never receive. Usually, fundamentalists, be they Christian, Muslim, or any faith, shape and interpret religious thought to make it conform to and legitimize a conservative status quo. Fundamentalist thinkers use religion to justify supporting imperialism, militarism, sexism, … [Read more...]

Love and the mystery of men and women

I've been reading bell hook's book All About Love: New Visions. In it, she stresses the importance of defining love so that we can't be controlled by abusive people who claim to love us. She borrows her definition of love from M. Scott Peck: "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth...Love is as love does. Love is an act of will--namely, both an intention and an action." hooks later discusses our culture's reluctance to define love: It i … [Read more...]

We have it “so good.”

What if I told you a story about a Muslim girl from the Middle East? She is dating a man. They're probably going to get married. She doesn't really want this to happen but she's afraid to leave him. Besides, she's given him her virginity (well, he took it, anyway) so she's now damaged goods. "No other man could ever want you," he tells her. Every day. And she believes him because her religious leaders have always taught her the same thing. He dictates what she wears. He tells her she must … [Read more...]

“You’re not like most women” is not a compliment!

Telling me that I'm not like most women--I'm more logical, rational, calm, unemotional, etc--is not a compliment.It's an insult to my gender and my sex. You're telling me my good qualities are an anomaly based on who I am. You're asking me to dismember myself. To separate my intelligence from the rest of me. From my gender identity and from my vagina. That my brain and my boobs and my femininity are a paradox.I see through you.I see through this not-so-subtle attack on other women. Women … [Read more...]

Feminism and abstinence

bell hooks states in her book Feminist Theory, From Margin to Center: One aspect of sexual norms that many people find oppressive is the assumption that one "should" be engaged in sexual activity. This "should" is one expression of sexual coercion...When...emphasis is placed on ending sexual oppression...it is possible to envision a society in which it is as much of an expression of sexual freedom to choose not to participate in sexual activity as it is to choose to participate. Having grown up … [Read more...]

Men who think consent is overrated are not good men.

TRIGGER WARNING: Rape(thanks to Ryan Stauffer for bringing this to my attention)Recently, The Good Men Project--who think of themselves as "a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century"--tweeted a story that I blame for the fact that I skipped lunch today. It literally made me lose my appetite.I've had problems with The Good Men Project in the past (this post by Amy Mitchell lays out just of few of my reasons why). But the misogynist post I read today … [Read more...]

All of who we are

When I first started dating my now-fiance, I had just recently begun calling myself a feminist. I had just recently begun to look at the way the world around me privileged men and say, "Hey! This isn't right."Thanks to my new found worldview, I saw Abe as having privilege over me. I expected him to be aware of that privilege, and I expected him to be extremely careful not to use that privilege in ways that might hurt me. I thought that he, as a man, was more privileged than me, as a woman.I … [Read more...]

A follow-up on complementarianism and rape culture

{trigger warning for rape} This is a follow up to my recent blog post, "Complimentarianism's ugly relationship with rape"I recently wrote a blog post in which I proposed that complementarianism benefits from rape culture. This post got me called a slanderer, a totalitarian communist propagandist, and even got me compared to a rapist lurking in the dark corners of the internet waiting to attack innocent men like Douglas Wilson and call them rape advocates against their will. This follow-up post … [Read more...]

Complementarianism’s ugly relationship with rape

[Trigger warning: rape apologism][Update: I've changed some mentions of "evangelical leaders" to "complementarian leaders" to clarify that I am referring specifically to complementarians in this post. I have a habit of using the two interchangeably because of my experiences in evangelicalism, but there is a growing number of awesome feminist evangelicals out there who don't deserve to be lumped in with complementarians]Over the past few months, I've called out evangelical Christian … [Read more...]


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